Great Couples Counseling in North Hanover, NJ. Therapy to heal relationships.

It is not easy being part of a couple. Two different people with two separate egos, and various wants, needs, preferences, and desires. Doing the work to become an effective couple is not for sissies. It requires a great deal of courage to honestly reveal who we are to our partner. My approach to working with couples helps them create the conditions for fostering an accepting, respectful, and honest relationship.

You fell in love with your partner, enjoyed the heady first days of the relationship, but staying in love is difficult. Your relationship isn't what it was or you want, you "can't seem to get it right", or even start. The "happily ever after" fairy tale has soured. You can reauthor your story - you know life is not a fairy tale, but the real tale is far more interesting. Therapy is not about being broken, sick or wrong. It's about growth, courage & moving forward. You can learn practical skills to create an authentic loving relationship which includes passion & intimacy as well as caring & communication. It is exciting & joyful to rediscover your feelings for each other.

What secrets do happy couples hold? Are they built differently than us? Do they eat better, or sleep better? How is it that some of us can get along so well, while others of us deplete precious energy during numerous fights and disagreements. As a professional, I have some insight into this problem. Happy couples share two essentials. The first thing, their shared sense of love, is something we all know about. The secret love of happy couples sustains because both partners accept each other fully. The key is always, without condition, loving and accepting all of your partner all of the time. It's not magical. With effort and patience, we may all be happier, better spouses sometime soon.

Couples counseling is the focus-area of my practice. Within that specialization, more specifically, I work with couples coping with infidelity and affair recovery. At the cornerstone of my approach to couples counseling is to help couples deepen their trust and establish a safe emotional climate between them. Counseling is conducted with compassion, warmth and respect. I have helped many couples restore and deepen their connections with one another and I would be honored to help you and your partner too.

Couples, married or otherwise, can find themselves in situations where they feel stuck or facing roadblocks. The relationship dynamic is complicated and there are two of you bringing your own separate personalities, histories, and emotions together while trying to build and maintain a relationship that improves both of your lives. Changing perspectives, understanding one another better, and learning better communication are some of the benefits and goals of relationship work.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Do you want a more peaceful relationship with your partner? I have worked with couples going through challenges, mediation processes and possible divorce. I specialize in working with couples that want to enhance their communication skills. I look at the strengths of each partner and how they function together in a relationship. My approach utilizes emotionally focused therapy, aimed at looking at interaction patterns and emotional states. We all deserve to be in a relationship that we find fulfilling and meets our needs.

I believe couples work is about finding common ground, letting go of resentment and old hostility, and recognizing its not about who is right or wrong. We can reconnect with new communication skills to regain the connection from early in the relationship. Often recognizing that a relationship needs nourishing is difficult, and once realized making a call for help is even more so. We are here to serve the people of southern New Jersey with professional and judgement/bias free services.