Anger Management and Counseling in Montgomery, NJ.

Using a structured, yet individualized approach to anger management, I help you identify triggers and thought patterns that lead to issues with anger. Therapy focuses on learning to respond and not react to people, situations, and circumstances that have been troublesome. We cannot control other people, but we can control how we respond to them. I often provide court-mandated anger management.

One of the main tools I use with people to help them control anger, is mindfulness. Anger is a normal emotion; we all know what it feels like. No one can help how they feel, but they can certainly control what they do with these feelings. Mindfulness is a way to help people understand what is happening for them in the moment. Teaching people to stop and pause, as they become more aware of what is happening for them, is a way to help them make different choices, rather than jumping into the same patterns which have not been useful in their lives. There are other behavioral skills clients can use as well, but it all starts with slowing the process down and awareness of what is happening.

This is an area that is vital to understand and know how to manage in order to have a healthy, compatible relationship. Not knowing how to reduce anger and handle it can sabotage a couple’s ability to communicate and get along on many levels. Anger unchecked, can destroy relationships and sometimes lead to violence. Over the years I have developed many techniques to help people reduce their anger, and have taught them how to communicate with their partner effectively. If you would like to learn about the 5 steps to manage anger you can go to: http://www.yourmarriagecounselor.com/anger-management-and-relationships/

We will explore the meaning and causes of anger issues to help you understand your feelings and regulate your emotions to help you lead a fuller life. By looking at where you came from, where you are, and where you are going, we can progress through a plan to help you feel more in control of your life. This involves looking at your life in new ways.

Are you struggling with anger? Do you have outbursts & regret them? Do you stuff your anger & then take it out on someone? Is anger tearing apart you or your relationships? Are you worried how it will affect your kids? You are not alone. The good news is you can learn how to control your anger & still express yourself. You'll learn skills, understand where it comes from, and know how to express it in a healthy manner. Anger is a signal that you can listen to and learn from without destroying yourself or others.

I believe children must first want to learn and perfect anger management. I have developed techniques to motivate the child or teen to develop a value system of respectful behavior toward others. Once this is achieved anger management skills can easily be obtained. Without a change in attitude and values, anger management training will fail because the child lacks the motivation to practice such techniques.

The teenage years can be filled with irritability, aggression, and mood swings. In therapy, your teen will learn about anger, its uses, its consequences, and how to manage it. Your teen will identify their triggers and create a plan to increase their distress tolerance. With practice, they will recognize the physical and emotional warning signs of their impending outbursts and they will engage in healthy responses to regulate their emotions. Whether it is through grounding techniques, or removing themselves from the environment entirely, your teen will learn that it is okay to feel strong emotions and that they have the ability to channel those emotions into productive and healthy actions.

Many of the issues we face in our lives result from not knowing how to handle hurt or anger. Sometimes we need some basic skills to address the underlying issues and to move past them. Let me help you identify your hurts, heal the past and move forward with a new way of coping. The Lord promises transformation not just management, through the power of the Holy Spirit. Learn how to let Him equip you to handle everything that life throws at you. Experience the freedom you desire.

Anger can be both useful and destructive, it can motivate or it can destroy. Anger can negatively effect your health and welfare. If your anger is destroying your happiness and your relationships it is time to learn new coping tools. Often times beliefs and expectations can lead to rage and anger. I will help you learn about the belief systems that are not serving you well and coach you towards new belief systems. So often our desire for perfection or fairness lead to high levels of frustration. Learning to tolerate and detach can be tools toward serenity and peace. Forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for you. Learn how to channel your anger towards health and happiness.

Managing our frustrations, irritations, upsets, and angry communication is a major challenge for men and women, children, and teens. Women’s anger is often sublimated as anxiety and incorrectly treated as such. I am interested in helping empower people to work through their anger and transform it into emotional strength. After working through anger issues, clients often report unexpected benefits, including more fulfilling relationships and financial success. Once the anger is overcome and clients develop skills to cope with everyday annoyances, they find themselves able to reach goals that had been thus far unattainable.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.