Anger Management and Counseling in Monmouth County, NJ.

Understanding one's own anger and feeling like you have a sense of control over it is a process. The first part is exploring the anger. Gaining a greater sense of where the anger is coming from, from its deepest roots, and how it is triggered. Recognizing what your anger is about and how it is triggered is they key to being able to achieve stability in your emotions and a sense of peace and calm.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

During sessions I will utilize CBT anger management interventions to target the emotional and physiological elements of anger, the cognitive (thinking/behavioral) processes that drive dysfunctional anger, and/or social and communication skills. In addition, I will also use psychodynamic therapy so I can help you examine the psychological roots of your anger and your response to it, so that you can identify and correct unhealthy patterns.

Are you struggling with anger? Do you have outbursts & regret them? Do you stuff your anger & then take it out on someone? Is anger tearing apart you or your relationships? Are you worried how it will affect your kids? You are not alone. The good news is you can learn how to control your anger & still express yourself. You'll learn skills, understand where it comes from, and know how to express it in a healthy manner. Anger is a signal that you can listen to and learn from without destroying yourself or others.

You have all the tools to stop your out-of-control, explosive anger. Afterwards you could picked one, but you did not. Knowing what to do and doing it are very different aspects of anger management. We change your behavior so that choices can be made before “those nasty words”, physical actions or abuse can occur. Hypnosis is short-term giving the angry person, a way of substituting a healthy response for an unhealthy one. Stop anger NOW with a free consultation.

My approach to working with clients in need of anger management is utilizing cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy. It is crucial to also utilize strengths perspective with each client and work through what the client is good at and how to use their own individual strengths to their benefit. A great deal of meditation, mindfulness, and grounding techniques will be explored and practiced throughout session to assist the client with navigating through their anger.

Anger is a cover and protector for deeper emotions hiding underneath. I provide a safe space for the client to be vulnerable with their emotions and so we can understand what anger is “trying to tell us”. By exploring the anger without judgement we allow more vulnerable feelings to surface which can help us understand what the anger is protecting.

Managing our frustrations, irritations, upsets, and angry communication is a major challenge for men and women, children, and teens. Women’s anger is often sublimated as anxiety and incorrectly treated as such. I am interested in helping empower people to work through their anger and transform it into emotional strength. After working through anger issues, clients often report unexpected benefits, including more fulfilling relationships and financial success. Once the anger is overcome and clients develop skills to cope with everyday annoyances, they find themselves able to reach goals that had been thus far unattainable.

This is an area that is vital to understand and know how to manage in order to have a healthy, compatible relationship. Not knowing how to reduce anger and handle it can sabotage a couple’s ability to communicate and get along on many levels. Anger unchecked, can destroy relationships and sometimes lead to violence. Over the years I have developed many techniques to help people reduce their anger, and have taught them how to communicate with their partner effectively. If you would like to learn about the 5 steps to manage anger you can go to: http://www.yourmarriagecounselor.com/anger-management-and-relationships/