Anger Management and Counseling in Lapeer, MI.

Are you struggling to manage your anger in a healthy way? It's okay to seek help, and I'm here to support you on this journey. Anger can have a significant impact on our relationships, work, and overall well-being. Through personalized counseling sessions, I can provide you with the tools and strategies you need to regain control, build emotional resilience, and lead a more peaceful life. Let's work together to transform your anger into a positive force for change. Call today for more information.

Out-of-control feelings are common when modern day life leaves many people feeling stressed out and overwhelmed. I can help you to understand the roots and triggers of your anger and then help you to cope more effectively when you feel frustration and anger. Anger is the emotion we need to protect ourselves; it’s what we feel when our rights have been violated. However, when not expressed appropriately or if we are out of control with anger, then it often causes our trouble in our relationships. Psychotherapy can help you to cope more effectively and calm your nervous system.

A common misconception is that anger is negative/bad but in reality there is nothing wrong with feeling angry. It is a normal and sometimes necessary emotion. Anger is not the problem, what we do with that anger is the key feature. Out-of-control anger can really hurt yourself and people around you as well as can cause issues in your daily life in school, work and in your personal/professional life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I often will tell people that our feelings have a way of being heard, whether we want them to or not! You might try to deny your anger or to bury it deep within yourself, but it will almost always find a way to express itself! And really, anger is NOT your enemy, though it might feel that way now. Anger has a place and a purpose in your life, but not if you're using it as a weapon against yourself or your loved ones. You can learn to cope with it so it's not a destructive force in your life! I like to teach people ways to more effectively manage their emotions, and then we can explore where the anger is coming from to try and resolve some of those issues as well.

I have worked in the field of Anger Management for at least for 15 years working with couples, individuals, and families. I have worked a lot with the court systems and individuals who are gotten into with the legal system. We dig into what individuals have learned from their families of origin and how we can use new tools to have a better way of dealing with life.

Our therapists utilize psychological therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger and aggression can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state. Anger management techniques include relaxation techniques, cognitive restructuring, problem solving, and improving communication strategies.

People who have anger issues are basically good people who have innocently been conditioned to act out in angry ways. I assist these clients to recognize that their conditioned angry behavior is not who they are, and when they recognize this they are able to use their own common sense to reduce their anger and clean up their own messes.

You cannot have high self-esteem and be angry at the same time. The lower your self-esteem, the more vulnerable you are to being angry. Showing your anger in reactive ways doesn't communicate what you really are trying to say. We teach clients how to raise their self-esteem and how what angers them is related to something they believe about themselves. We also offer cognitive-behavioral tools to help individuals and couples address, express and feel their anger.

Aristotle famously stated that getting angry was easy, but doing so in the right way, and for the right reasons, and to the right degree was not so easy. To this day, those words are a truth. It is a problem that has yet to be universally solved, but instead, must be done individually, in the course of one's life. However, there are keys and tools and understandings that are universal. Providing these tools is a large part of my work, as I work extensively with men and women struggling with anger problems and domestic violence.

I have worked with many teenagers and adults around anger management and conflict resolution as well as people who struggle with anxiety, phobias, depression, workplace issues and family conflict, especially around parenting. I am flexible in my approach and would welcome people to come in and discern whether my approach would be helpful. I utilize an eclectic approach that is individually tailored to suit each client's needs, and incorporate various traditional, holistic and complementary therapies to help individuals, families and groups improve their personal accountability and strengthen healthy coping skills. I look forward to meeting you and helping you on your courageous journey through Life.