Anger Management and Counseling in Allegan, MI.

I find anger management does not pop up with no rhyme or reason. I like to give my clients tools to express their anger in a positive and safe way to allow them to feel as though they are not repressing any intense emotion. As the client becomes more comfortable in the process, we will be able to examine any past issues the anger may stem from. In order to really resolve anger issues, we will need to target exactly when the problem started, and work through the emotions of that time.

Our therapists utilize psychological therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger and aggression can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state. Anger management techniques include relaxation techniques, cognitive restructuring, problem solving, and improving communication strategies.

At the core of all anger is fear. It is my goal to help my client discover that fear and express it in a way that is not harmful to self or others. How I approach anger management is though humor and education. It is not an easy topic and not everyone understands the complex emotions that anger can provoke in self and others. I do my best to educate and explore the issues.

When our anger needs managing, it is usually because we are deeply angry about things we might not even be aware of. Everything may feel like it's about the current moment or the current relationship, but it's really about some unresolved anger from the past. Our minds imagine we can't handle what we are really angry about, so it takes in out on something or someone else. In therapy, we make it safe to get angry with what really counts. We help resolve that anger so it no longer needs an outlet. Let's not just "manage" your anger. Let's resolve it.

Anger is destructive to relationships, both in the work place and at home. Many times expressed anger is a form of defensiveness against the hurts of life. In therapy, we will explore your history of anger outbursts, discuss the difference between rage and anger and explore the other 2 major emotions; glad and sad. Resources used include The Anger Workbook by Les Carter and The Lies you Believe and the Truths You Must Believe by C. Thurman. I encourage journaling and role-playing. In order to stop a certain behavior, one needs to learn to replace with healthier behaviors. Patterns of relating and living are explored and help will be offered to change and replace unhealthy anger patterns.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.