Great Couples Counselling in East Saint Paul, MB. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples come to therapy for a variety of different reasons. For some, therapy is a just good preventative medicine; it teaches partners the skills to communicate effectively, be attuned to their partner, and express their own needs and desires in the relationship. For other couples, a loss of connection because of extramarital affairs, abuse, illness, life transitions, or everyday life stressors precipitates the desire for therapy. Whatever your reason for coming to couple's therapy, it can help with emotional intimacy, honesty, sexual intimacy, and enhance communication. Relationships are like a garden; they needed to be cared for in order to thrive. It's an investment well worth it.

Relationships can be the best of times, but also require copious amounts of effort. There are no "master-couples" who got where they are without putting in the time and hard work. We've all entered relationships with dreams and idealism, and then discover flaws that can be daunting. Although some divorces are inevitable, we believe that the rate of successful reconciliation can be much higher. Regardless of what your need is, to enhance an already good relationship, to mend problems, or to find a different path, we are able to help.

Positive relationships have a remarkable impact on our lives. A sense of well-being and emotional health can be impacted heavily by relationships. Sometimes, when relationships are no longer positive, it can be distressing, leaving individuals feeling betrayed, upset, cut off and even angry. Working with couples in a supportive, caring way, together, we will explore your issues to improve communication and to discover a rekindling of your relationship.

We provide therapy for all couple relationships. By using an integrative approach we assist couples in building upon the strengths in their relationship to address the challenges. We provide a safe environment for couples to explore their strengths and challenges together. By giving space for vulnerability, building on communication, empathy and understanding in the relationship couples will explore a deeper connection with each other.

Happily married but want a deeper connection? Or, tired of arguing and not being understood? There are many underlying issues that affect a relationship. Childhood experiences often impact how each partner communicates or copes with conflict, stress, emotions, etc. Life events and transitions can also stir up overwhelming emotions and tax resources affecting the quality of a relationship. Through therapy, you will discover how past and present life experiences are affecting you, your partner, and your relationship and identify harmful patterns that are hindering the intimacy you long for. Through effective communication techniques you will gain the tools to understand one another better.

Relationship Therapy can help if you are: 1) Having difficulties developing or maintaining a loving relationship 2) Are in a troubled relationship and you're committed to therapy and reconciliation 4) In a damaged relationship and want to determine whether it is worth saving and if both of you are committed to saving it 5) In a relationship that is “over” and you want help processing the emotional fall out of separating, on you and your children 6) Engaged and want to be sure that you are “meant for each other”, I provide relationship or marriage therapy using Emotion-Focused Couples therapy (EFT) to help you heal past wounds, and create the kind of relationship that you desire.

Are you and your partner wanting change in your relationship, but feel stuck? I can help you both feel heard, understood, and validated, while working with you to understand your unconscious patterns and to improve your communication skills. I help couples work through issues of conflict or struggle around roles, responsibilities, finances, intimacy, sexuality, parenting, communication, infidelity, aging, health, addictions, and other situations. Sometimes couples use therapy for discernment as to whether they want to stay in the relationship or separate. Whether seeking greater intimacy, or how to end the relationship with compassion, I can help you and your partner find your way.

Couple counseling is a type of psychotherapy for a married couple or established partners that tries to resolve problems in the relationship. I am trained in psychotherapy and family systems theory.One of my focuses in couple counseling is to gain an understanding of my clients' symptoms and their perspectives on the relationship. I respectfully explore with clients their relationship patterns and interactions. One area of focus is to help clients understand how their interactions are contributing to problems in their relationship. New patterns of relating can then can be developed.

Couples of all ages, cultures and unique characteristics have come to learn how to deal with issues that keep them from achieving the trust, closeness and intimacy that they both desire. Drawing on years of experience from couples in therapy and the thirty-six years of my own marriage, as well as a passion for this area of life, I've seen couples rediscover their love and passion for each other and their loving homes restored.

All of us were created for relationship. Marriage is the most intimate form of all relationships. It, therefore, can also be the source of our most agonizing pain. It takes maturity, dedication and insight to make such a relationship successful. Every relationship is imperfect and can benefit from deeper work. Sometines, we get very much off track. I can help by looking at communication, conflict, misunderstandings, betrayal, intimacy, wounding and abuse. I can help couples identify their individual personalities and love languages. I can help couples come to a place where each of their needs are being met. I also love to do premarital counselling where much prevention can occur.

Within a couple, there are three developmental processes occurring at any given time-that of each partner and that of the couple itself. A couple matures well when partners each feel able to define their thoughts, feelings, wants and desires, and can voice this in the spirit of knowing one another more deeply. I work with couples to uncover what patterns keep them from effectively self defining and maintaining a positive attachment with each other. To this end, I ask partners to decide their own autonomous goals, and then support them in this to develop their capacity to expand themselves while also growing as a couple.

Couples so often drift into habits of not recognizing each other's attempts to connect. Sometimes a fresh look can help see the blind spots - the things you've stopped doing; the missed opportunities that are essential to a deep bond. I work with couples on identifying and recommitting to love - which is a choice of the will, at the heart of it all.

Relationships begin with so much hope and promise for the future: passion, love, intimacy, acceptance, belonging, and security. Then familiarity follows along with responsibility. The downfall starts with complacency and perhaps even resentment for the failure to live up to the promise of what could have/ should have been. Sound familiar? The above scenario is a common, and likely simplistic, description of a relationship in decline. Other factors can also disrupt plans such as a breach of trust or a traumatic experience. In counselling, we will help to re-connect you with your values and beliefs while improving communication and re-defining what it means to be in a relationship.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Relationships are the best things in life when they go well and are a source of great distress when they are not going well. Dr. Don Russell has the tools and strategies to turn around troubled marriages and relationships. Hurts can be healed, communications channels can be opened up and feelings of betrayal can be mended. Many couples say, "I can't believe we waited so long, until it got so bad before we got help" It can get better. Why wait?