Great Couples Counseling in Lawrence, MA. Therapy to heal relationships.

I work with couples (both straight and gay) in many effective ways to improve communication, to fight effectively, to heal and make up after a quarrel, to understand each other better, to be faithful and trustworthy, to be there for each other when times get tough, to include children into the mix, and, if necessary to separate in a civil manner with fewer wounds to carry into the next relationship.

Every couple's issue is rooted in emotional intimacy. It is the glue that holds the relationship together or if it is non existent or weak, it will make the relationship fall apart. This is the reason why my work with couples start with identifying and repairing the areas of emotional disconnect before working on communication or other potential issues.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Doing couple therapy is to open direct communication and avoid assuming between the couple. I used many techniques to get couple openly trust to say anything without been judged and be afraid to say things to each other. I use reflection toward their first time they met so I send them on date . I also give couple some assignments such as "do appreciate from partner; and do not appreciate from partner"