Great Couples Counseling in Kingston, MA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Your relationship has the potential to become a place where you can bring more joy and happiness into your life. Couples therapy is the most challenging of therapies due to the emotional intensity of the couple’s dynamics. When both members of a couple are committed to repairing the relationship, working with a skilled clinician is highly rewarding and successful. Couples entering counseling who have a mixed agenda where splitting up is a possibility, need help to discern and determine their goals. I see couples together as well as individually, and work with them to determine what would need to change for them achieve increased affection and the closeness they had when they first met.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Couples deserve to succeed. Conflicts in a marriage are rarely about the issues, but instead how couples talk about the issues. In marriage counseling sessions I work actively with couples to teach new skills. Right from the start couples receive a manual that I have written that summarizes the research on how successful couples communicate. Together we change how you communicate in sessions, receiving lots of feedback and guidance. If your previous conversations escalated or even stopped occurring, new ways of communicating will restore friendship and rebuild emotional connection.

In my couples counseling practice, I employ evidence-based techniques such as the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples improve communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their relationship. My approach focuses on creating a safe and supportive environment where partners can explore their feelings, understand each other's perspectives, and develop healthier interaction patterns. By working collaboratively with couples, I aim to enhance their connection, trust, and overall relationship satisfaction.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

I see couples of all different variations and types, both alternative and mainstream. The same basic skills are critical to teach. Communication, positive appreciation of one another, compassionate listening, and finding ways to experience joy with one another. I help them be able to experience vulnerability with one another in a safe manner so that they can become closer and strengthen connection.

One of my greatest joys is in working with couples. I find it both challenging and incredibly rewarding to help couples who are in pain to gain insight into themselves and their partner and reach new levels of intimacy. I often employ Cognitive Restructuring techniques to help couples to hear one another in healthier ways. I consider it a blessing for couples to allow themselves to be vulnerable in treatment and leave with a deeper understanding of themselves and each other.

'Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus' is a fantastic metaphor that will help you to understand yourself and your partner better. Because I am personally trained by Dr. John Gray and have helped thousands of couples improve communication and relationships, I feel confidant that I can help you have best relationship imaginable; Respecting and loving as you did in the first six months of your time together.