Anger Management and Counseling in Whately, MA.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

You might find yourself experiencing intense anger that is hard to manage or control. Emotionally focused therapy can help uncover the roots of where your anger is coming from, grow your ability to act on the anger differently, and be able to become more connected to yourself in the process. I will often integrate internal family systems methods and psycho-education to grow in awareness and compassion towards yourself, while also gaining new ways to cope with your anger.

Clients who consult with me regarding their anger and their difficulty in controlling their impulses. experience my interest and support in helping them to both understand how their anger came to be so big as well as to help them to repair the relationships that have been hurt by their anger. They are helped to understand that their anger is frequently a response to their experience of loss of some kind and that these losses can be defined and understood. Such losses range from loss of opportunity, to loss of money, to loss of a relationship. to loss of self-esteem.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.