Anger Management and Counseling in Medfield, MA.

Anger, like other negative emotions can be a cover up for deeper emotional issues or trauma. When not properly addressed, anger can destroy relationships and isolate. But it does not have to be so. Anger does not have to overtake your life. I can help you identify past hurt and pain so you can heal your wounded inner child, be free and repair broken relationships.

Anger is a complex and often misrepresented emotion. The danger of undiagnosed, high levels of anger can have harmful consequences for individuals, families and careers. As we work together, I can help you understand patterns of anger and its origins, as well as how to calm that part of you, and how to repair the relationships that were damaged as a result of anger directed at others. Examples of questions to ask yourself are: How has your anger been a liability to you and/or your loved ones? What has been the most profound cost of your anger? In the past, how have you had success controlling your anger or keeping it at bay? When your anger is better, who will be the first person to notice?

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

My approach to anger management focuses on helping clients understand the underlying causes of their anger and developing effective strategies for managing it. Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), I teach clients to recognize their triggers, reframe negative thought patterns, and practice mindfulness techniques. By equipping clients with tools to manage their emotions and improve their communication skills, I aim to reduce the frequency and intensity of anger outbursts and promote healthier, more constructive interactions.

Becoming upset or angry is a fact of being human. These upsets are usually tied to three specific elements which are addressed while in session. One example being an unfulfilled expectation - that is, you thought something would turn out one way, yet it turned out another. This naturally makes one upset. How you deal with it is another matter altogether. This service will help you first become clear on the three elements of an upset, teach you ways to get out in front of automatic responses and make sure you have a new set of tools to better be able to manage such situations when they arise.

I help clients to create a tool chest to use when experiencing anger. This includes mindfulness work to build the space in their heads to make new responses when angry. This includes empowering clients around the choices they can make and building on their strengths, while teaching relaxation and grounding techniques. Along with creating new space, I help them explore the variety of causes for their anger and help them reconnect to it in a healthier manner.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

The benefits of my personally created program include: identifying your anger styles and triggers so you can gain the awareness and tools to avoid past responses, reduce stress, and manage negative self-talk and learn healthy inner guidance. You will learn how to effectively deal with past or present bullying or confrontation, and also understand self-destructive behavior.