Anger Management and Counseling in Lexington, MA.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is a complex and often misrepresented emotion. The danger of undiagnosed, high levels of anger can have harmful consequences for individuals, families and careers. As we work together, I can help you understand patterns of anger and its origins, as well as how to calm that part of you, and how to repair the relationships that were damaged as a result of anger directed at others. Examples of questions to ask yourself are: How has your anger been a liability to you and/or your loved ones? What has been the most profound cost of your anger? In the past, how have you had success controlling your anger or keeping it at bay? When your anger is better, who will be the first person to notice?

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

My approach to anger management focuses on helping clients understand the underlying causes of their anger and developing effective strategies for managing it. Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), I teach clients to recognize their triggers, reframe negative thought patterns, and practice mindfulness techniques. By equipping clients with tools to manage their emotions and improve their communication skills, I aim to reduce the frequency and intensity of anger outbursts and promote healthier, more constructive interactions.

Angry, explosive people often have broken relationships, sporadic work histories, and chaotic lives. An anger management therapist can help you tame your impulses to sound off, express your frustration in a way that's helpful, not off-putting, tolerate the feelings underlying your anger, and give up the need to be in control of every situation. Having real power in situations begins with controlling yourself.

The benefits of my personally created program include: identifying your anger styles and triggers so you can gain the awareness and tools to avoid past responses, reduce stress, and manage negative self-talk and learn healthy inner guidance. You will learn how to effectively deal with past or present bullying or confrontation, and also understand self-destructive behavior.