Great Couples Counseling in Shawnee, KS. Therapy to heal relationships.

Your relationship is my client. We we will look what is working and what is not working. We will look not only at the way you communicate, but the message under the communication. Research tells us 85% of communication is non-verbal, so the message behind the words is critical to explore. There are other proven ways such as the research of John Gottman and Susan Johnson.

As a couple therapist I will work to provide you an understanding of what is going on in your relationship that is causing distress. I have extensive training in the Gottman Method and will also draw upon my knowledge of Dr. Sue Johnson's work in Emotion Focused Therapy. If you are in distress we need to work to help you find ways to communicate your needs to one another and to be heard by your partner. There are practical tools that I can give you so that you can learn ways to communicate and connect. Couples utilizing these methods commonly find that they notice some immediate relief and are able to begin to communicate in a way that each partner feels heard and understood.

When your relationship isn't working, it feels as if nothing in life is working. I help couples understand what's underneath the hurts, the fears, and the assumptions we make of our partners. Through this uncovering I help couples cultivate a deeper, more compassionate understanding of our partner as well as ourselves. Once we learn what we're feeling, we can figure out what we need from our relationship.

Couples counseling can help individuals learn how to work together and compromise to help promote increased harmony in the home. Every couple is unique and has strengths and opportunities for growth. If you're interested in improving your ability to communicate and get your needs met, both couples, as well as, individual counseling can help provide your home with improved communications and feelings of validation.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties dont agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161 DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

In couples counseling, I explore the needs of both parties, their personal goals, their dream for the future and how the two people can live out their lives either together, supporting one another, or determining the direction of the relationship. We will look at personality styles, communication, cultural differences and the ability to repair and/or accept repair.

Is the honeymoon over? Sometimes daily responsibilities, stress, or crisis can take the romance out of relationships. When a relationship is strong there is honesty, love and confidence that your spouse will be there when you most need them. Don't let your relationship suffer until there is no recovery. I work with couples who want to reconnect, or work on communication, conflict resolution, and other issues to keep their relationship strong or rebuild what they once shared. Whatever the state of your relationship, your decision to engage in counseling is a positive step toward creating a loving, supportive relationship with your partner.