Anger Management and Counseling in Whitestown, IN.

My approach to anger management involves learning valuable coping and relaxation skills. However, it also involves learning the root causes of the anger and addressing distortions in thinking. Using Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy I help clients address their beliefs about situations which often cause the feelings and reactions that follow. I use homework, role playing and collaborative treatment goals to help ensure clients make progress and meet their intended objectives.

Anger can be a frustrating emotion. At times it can feel so powerful that we believe we have little ability to control it. Anger, however, is not just a frustrating and powerful emotion...it is an energy, that when properly directed, can help us achieve great things. Without proper direction, anger can become destructive, especially if we choose to direct that energy toward another individual. The ability to manage strong emotions is a skill that can be learned and used to facilitate better interpersonal interactions. If you are having trouble managing strong emotions such as anger, we can help you learn to better manage, direct and regulate your emotional energies.

Anger is an indicator. Much like physical pain lets you know that an injury hasn't healed yet, anger lets you know that something needs your attention. Either something has poked a deep wound that needs to be addressed, or someone has infringed upon one of your boundaries. I can help you learn the underlying cause of your anger, and heal it, as well as learn new and more productive ways to communicate with others. We will address the root cause of the problem, not just the symptom, to achieve life-long results.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.