Anger Management and Counseling in Minooka, IL.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

The key to anger management is learning not to respond to the small things in life. It is learning to focus on impulse control with emotions and learning to filter the impact of words. Not controlling anger will cause a lifetime of chaotic and destructive relationships. Another focus of anger management counseling is to heal the emotional hurts and trust issues that brought you to a place where your natural tendency is be defensive towards others instead of accepting and loving.

Anger is so much more than just anger. Under Anger there are a lot of deeper feelings that have usually gone repressed or unvalidated. The first step in working with anger is addressing those underlying thoughts and feelings to get to the root of the anger. We'll find new ways to cope with life's stressors and incorporate new ways of interacting with others.

I've seen many clients over the years with anger management issues. Men require a therapist's sensitivity to the issues they use anger to deal with. Learning the practical skills to deal with anger and understanding the issues of entitlement, humiliation, control, and fear that often provoke rage or it's opposite, suppressing, internalizing it, is my goal in working with clients through individual and couple's counseling. I see many couples where their anger with each other contaminates possibilities of working on common issues so I work with couples to disentangle their disruptive, sometimes abusive communications through a combination of individual and couple's counseling.

In my psychotherapy practice, I help patients with uncontrollable anger by providing a supportive environment to explore underlying triggers. Using various behavioral techniques, I teach patients to identify and reframe negative thought patterns, develop healthy coping strategies, and improve emotional regulation. By fostering self-awareness and promoting effective communication skills, I guide patients toward managing their anger constructively, enhancing their well-being and relationships.

Seeking therapy for your anger can help in many ways. When seeing a therapist for anger you will most likely start by recognizing areas in your life that make you angry. You will then process how you respond to these instances. Your therapist will then guide you in understanding the outcomes in how you respond and it's affects on yourself and others. You will gain new insight as to where your anger stems from, as well as healthier ways to respond to that anger. Seeking therapy for anger can help you cope better with situations in life, have more positive outcomes in conflict and even work through traumatic situations or unprocessed grief that may be the result of anger.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

I support individuals with anger difficulties through empathy/emotion-coaching, as well as teaching them tools and strategies to manage their anger and frustrations. While decreasing and managing anger, we are able to take a deeper look into the individual. I am able to guide them via talk therapy to enable And empower them to help themselves while achieving new insights.