Anger Management and Counseling in Lake in the Hills, IL.

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. The way we express anger can be what distinguishes us as being healthy or unhealthy partners, parents, co-workers, employees or managers. Anger is generally a surface emotion. Beneath it lies another strong emotion, usually sadness, hurt, fear or inadequacy. In our efforts to protect ourselves from being vulnerable we often act out in anger, which generally takes us farther away from our true goals. In my work with you I will help you understand your anger in a different way and provide you with techniques and coping skills to manage this strong emotion moving you closer to your ultimate goals and strengthening your relationships.

You know your anger has made real messes in your life--at work, with friends, in your love life. I can show you many ways to get to the roots of your dark demons and fiery dragons. There are reasons and excuses that have been fueling your anger and you can only benefit from studying yourself. Saying you are sorry hasn't stopped your anger from returning. Anger that you understand and manage can serve you. Without looking inside yourself, anger will control you and cost you a lot more than time and money.

If after getting a flat tire, you think and continue to say to yourself: "This sucks"…This is terrible"…"Why does this always happen to me?"…"I can’t stand it"… anger will be the likely emotional response. And if you typically think in a negative way, then you will likely be more prone to psychological and physical difficulties like anger, poor relationships, stroke and heart disease.On the other hand, someone who thinks to himself "I’m glad that I have a spare tire"…"I can handle this"…"This is a hassle, not a horror", will react in a more realistic manner. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help you learn how to cope more effectively with life's challenges and lead a happier life.

In dealing with anger management, I do not simply try to focus on counting to 10 and other superficial control mechanisms. Instead, I try to help the individual to learn to deal more effectively with the underlying causes of the anger. Anger is a defensive response to perceived threat. Thus, I help the individual to uncover, recognize and deal more effectively with the perceived threat - perceived loss of love and respect from a loved one is the most common threat. We all feel hurt when we perceive that our loved one feels or thinks less of us.

Often challenges that complicate our lives also gives us opportunity to grow. Perhaps we're faced with marital or family problems, or job dissatisfaction. Or, you've had difficulty expressing anger.These struggles may indicate deeper issues, limiting beliefs and emotional wounds we harbor from the past. With William Edleman's help, you can alter self-destructive patterns of behavior and make positive , lasting improvements in your life. You can break free from your distrust of others and learn to act more effectively, feeling more whole and more self -empowered.

Anger is so much more than just anger. Under Anger there are a lot of deeper feelings that have usually gone repressed or unvalidated. The first step in working with anger is addressing those underlying thoughts and feelings to get to the root of the anger. We'll find new ways to cope with life's stressors and incorporate new ways of interacting with others.

Anger is a normal emotion. Anger is a problem when it is out of control hurtful and destructive. Destructive anger can lead to problems at home, work , school and in relationships. Each persons tolerance level and managing skills are different .Genetic, physiology and ones environment all contribute to the way a person responds to anger. By learning skills to better manage the way an individual appraises a situation and learning positive ways to express and communicate their frustrations and hurts one can experience healthier outcomes.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

Do you tend to go from zero to sixty in a few short seconds? Does your anger get you in trouble at work and/or in your relationships? There is help available. I can help you learn to take a step back and breath before you react. Together we can work to find out where your anger is coming from and from there, we change your perspective about what is triggering you. Collaboratively, we will work on skills that you can develop to successfully manage your anger. For more information, please don't hesitate to contact me.

Anger is not bad by itself. Getting adrenaline drunk though, can give you power at the time, but can also be destructive. Other types of anger may be hidden from view, but slowly eat away at your happiness. I can help you find your triggers, understand how they affect you, and work with you to develop coping tools to both prevent and recover from the stress hormones that accompany anger.

I use a pyscho educational approach with working with anger management. In that I teach about anger being a secondary emotion that often protects hurt and fear. We go through the anger cycle and ways to change that cycle. The goal is help clients move from destructive behaviors to constructive communication and behaviors. A typical anger management process takes four to six sessions.

In my psychotherapy practice, I help patients with uncontrollable anger by providing a supportive environment to explore underlying triggers. Using various behavioral techniques, I teach patients to identify and reframe negative thought patterns, develop healthy coping strategies, and improve emotional regulation. By fostering self-awareness and promoting effective communication skills, I guide patients toward managing their anger constructively, enhancing their well-being and relationships.

Reducing the words used many times by clients with anger issues can be the key to effective change in behaviors. These words are "ought, must and should'. Reducing or eliminating them can create profound change. Also reducing expectations of self and others has helped individual won struggle with anger bring it under control. Learning to accept anger as just another emotion and learning to validate and regulate that feeling become important tools in this very devastating issue.

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

Have you recently found yourself more easily frustrated? Has your anger become a barrier between you and those you love? Has your anger escalated jeopardizing your job or encumbered you in legal difficulties? If so we can help. Many people are sidelined by elevated levels of anger when stress levels become too high. Anger is a normal emotion but at times when stress levels are high can become a very destructive force. At McNulty Consultants we Cognitive-Behavioral strategies which teach and guide clients to regulate and manage strong emotions, channeling them in healthier ways. To set up an initial consultation call 630-673-5510.