Anger Management and Counseling in Elburn, IL.

You know your anger has made real messes in your life--at work, with friends, in your love life. I can show you many ways to get to the roots of your dark demons and fiery dragons. There are reasons and excuses that have been fueling your anger and you can only benefit from studying yourself. Saying you are sorry hasn't stopped your anger from returning. Anger that you understand and manage can serve you. Without looking inside yourself, anger will control you and cost you a lot more than time and money.

If after getting a flat tire, you think and continue to say to yourself: "This sucks"…This is terrible"…"Why does this always happen to me?"…"I can’t stand it"… anger will be the likely emotional response. And if you typically think in a negative way, then you will likely be more prone to psychological and physical difficulties like anger, poor relationships, stroke and heart disease.On the other hand, someone who thinks to himself "I’m glad that I have a spare tire"…"I can handle this"…"This is a hassle, not a horror", will react in a more realistic manner. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help you learn how to cope more effectively with life's challenges and lead a happier life.

Anger is so much more than just anger. Under Anger there are a lot of deeper feelings that have usually gone repressed or unvalidated. The first step in working with anger is addressing those underlying thoughts and feelings to get to the root of the anger. We'll find new ways to cope with life's stressors and incorporate new ways of interacting with others.

Reducing the words used many times by clients with anger issues can be the key to effective change in behaviors. These words are "ought, must and should'. Reducing or eliminating them can create profound change. Also reducing expectations of self and others has helped individual won struggle with anger bring it under control. Learning to accept anger as just another emotion and learning to validate and regulate that feeling become important tools in this very devastating issue.

In my psychotherapy practice, I help patients with uncontrollable anger by providing a supportive environment to explore underlying triggers. Using various behavioral techniques, I teach patients to identify and reframe negative thought patterns, develop healthy coping strategies, and improve emotional regulation. By fostering self-awareness and promoting effective communication skills, I guide patients toward managing their anger constructively, enhancing their well-being and relationships.

I've seen many clients over the years with anger management issues. Men require a therapist's sensitivity to the issues they use anger to deal with. Learning the practical skills to deal with anger and understanding the issues of entitlement, humiliation, control, and fear that often provoke rage or it's opposite, suppressing, internalizing it, is my goal in working with clients through individual and couple's counseling. I see many couples where their anger with each other contaminates possibilities of working on common issues so I work with couples to disentangle their disruptive, sometimes abusive communications through a combination of individual and couple's counseling.

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. The way we express anger can be what distinguishes us as being healthy or unhealthy partners, parents, co-workers, employees or managers. Anger is generally a surface emotion. Beneath it lies another strong emotion, usually sadness, hurt, fear or inadequacy. In our efforts to protect ourselves from being vulnerable we often act out in anger, which generally takes us farther away from our true goals. In my work with you I will help you understand your anger in a different way and provide you with techniques and coping skills to manage this strong emotion moving you closer to your ultimate goals and strengthening your relationships.

The key to anger management is learning not to respond to the small things in life. It is learning to focus on impulse control with emotions and learning to filter the impact of words. Not controlling anger will cause a lifetime of chaotic and destructive relationships. Another focus of anger management counseling is to heal the emotional hurts and trust issues that brought you to a place where your natural tendency is be defensive towards others instead of accepting and loving.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

I support individuals with anger difficulties through empathy/emotion-coaching, as well as teaching them tools and strategies to manage their anger and frustrations. While decreasing and managing anger, we are able to take a deeper look into the individual. I am able to guide them via talk therapy to enable And empower them to help themselves while achieving new insights.

There is healthy anger and unhealthy anger. Unhealthy anger tends to affect the ones we love the most, our overall mood, and our goals in life. Anger Management is an effective way to get ahold of your anger. I will work with you to help gain insights into your anger and provide you real world tools you can use to manage your anger more effectively.

Anger is an emotion that can be very hard to manage and respond to effectively because most people often have a very automatic and impulsive response when they experience anger. Through dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) we can begin to identify emotions and begin to slow down in order to recognize ways to respond to emotions rather than react to them. This will help you feel more in control of your emotions as well as improve your relationships with others because of your ability to manage and respond to anger effectively.

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

Do you tend to go from zero to sixty in a few short seconds? Does your anger get you in trouble at work and/or in your relationships? There is help available. I can help you learn to take a step back and breath before you react. Together we can work to find out where your anger is coming from and from there, we change your perspective about what is triggering you. Collaboratively, we will work on skills that you can develop to successfully manage your anger. For more information, please don't hesitate to contact me.