Anger Management and Counseling in Burnham, IL.

Our clients can benefit from anger management counseling by understanding stress and the negative effects it brings to their lives and family. Learning to control anger leads to better decision making therefore happier lives. Let us guide you to a new understanding between being assertive vs. aggressive and a better communication for less conflict in your life.

Anger is the hardest emotion for others to forgive and causes the most damage to your relationships. Aggression, whether physical, verbal, or emotional, destroys trust and robs those around you of their feeling of safety. Having a lack of self-control over your emotional reactions causes the need for constant apologies and the need to rapair your relationships. Others stop being emotionall honest with you out of fear of your reaction.

As a society we tell people they shouldn't be angry. But anger is a hard-wired emotion that's part of our physical and emotional make-up. What we do with that anger however is another thing altogether. Many people with anger management issues, or people who feel overwhelmed or engulf by their anger, come to therapy feeling lost as to how to handle what they are experiencing and regret the aftermath of their "anger management." I will help you understand the deeper meanings and anchors to your anger so that instead of fearing it, mis-using it, or snuffing it out with addiction, you will be able to process and understand it in a healthy manner.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

In my psychotherapy practice, I help patients with uncontrollable anger by providing a supportive environment to explore underlying triggers. Using various behavioral techniques, I teach patients to identify and reframe negative thought patterns, develop healthy coping strategies, and improve emotional regulation. By fostering self-awareness and promoting effective communication skills, I guide patients toward managing their anger constructively, enhancing their well-being and relationships.

While anger is a natural emotion which everyone feels now and then, it can be very destructive when it gets out of control. When that happens, it can easily take a toll on you and those around you, leading to relationship problems, employment problems, and legal problems. The good news is that anger management therapy is a very effective way of getting greater control over your anger. When you see me for anger management therapy, we will identify events contributing to your anger and create a plan together to cope with the anger so that you remain in control. Give me a call today for a free consultation and we can put together a preliminary plan over the telephone.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.