Great Couples Counseling in Sanibel, FL. Therapy to heal relationships.

Feelings, wants, needs, and a mutual understanding of the couples are explored. Conflicts resolutions are developed to improve relationships. Solution Focus Therapy is utilized to identify the ideal state, the Miracle, then goals are written to achieve the state and progress is noted weekly. Past hurts and misunderstanding are explored during therapy. Role play is also effective in couples gaining understanding.

We are passionate about and skilled with helping couples to repair and strengthen their relationship by utilizing techniques from evidence-based practices such as Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and the Gottman Method. These techniques help get to the heart of the matter to increase relationship satisfaction and heal emotional injuries that may have occurred throughout the relationship or as a result of previous trauma. Individual therapy for each partner is also recommended as best practice for helping each person to work through their personal traumas.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

“You are my Happy.” More than different cultures, genders, and sexual orientation, the potential of each partner and dedication to invest into the relationship matters. To have a relationship where you are appreciated for who you are, your value is praised, where you experience an intimate level of trust, fully saturating intimacy, and where you are getting your messages across, you have to take care. The couples therapy focuses on a change of the perspective of the relationship, modification of dysfunctional behavior, balancing of emotional engagement, improvement of communication, conflict resolution strategies, and promoting strengths.

Couples counseling can be scary… Making the choice to try couples counseling is a big step that two people take together. It means admitting things are not perfect in your relationship, and that can be scary. Relationships are hard. Even when you’ve found the “perfect” partner and fall deeply in love. Nothing is ever really perfect when it involves bringing two diverse individuals together. Relationships shift and change over time. Life happens. Maybe you’ve experienced a life-altering event such as a major illness, loss of your home or job, maybe even the heartbreaking loss of a child. Events such as these can test and demolish even the strongest relationship.

For 40 years, David has helped people take mediocre, or struggling relationships, and turn them around , so that you both can experience the love you desire. David does not believe in "couples counseling", rather, he works with each persons challenges within the relationship which helps them heal quicker. His fully unique indivdual approach to couples counseling completely sets his healing program apart from most other professionals. his success rate is incredible. Before you give up on your relationship, work with David to see what type of resentments might be lying underneath, that need to be dealt with. Or how our passive aggressive behavior is destroying our current relationship.

Couples work is unique and interesting. What a lot of people don't understand it that of course you have different viewpoints - you are in different bodies, have different life experiences and are actually looking at different views! Many times the problem is simply communication: no matter how many times you tell your partner what you need, they just don't hear it. That is where I come in- helping people to get heard and also to hear clearly! In this way there can be a softening and a coming together, with both partners feeling loved and understood. You don't have to continue fighting, and counseling doesn't mean you failed. It is a gift you give your relationship to help nurture it.

If you are struggling in your relationship and you would like assistance in communicating to your love one in an effective and loving manner, please consider contacting Dr. April. She helps couples learn how to solve their issues in a trusting, nonjudgmental, and empathetic environment by discovering and rediscovering their true feelings for each other.

In my work with couples, I view the relationship through the lens of attachment theory. The person we chose to be our partner, may become our "secure home base" as your relationship grows to be a healthy partnership to celebrate, depend on and lean on through the ups and downs of life. I view couples counseling as working with three entities: both partners and the relationship. The relationship you both share becomes my focus as we all collaborate together to bring forth the best relationship you can imagine. I look forward to working with you both. I use EMDR, Emotion Focused Therapy and Expressive Arts in my work with Couples.