Anger Management and Counseling in Westview, FL.

I don’t believe in Anger Management. Instead, I believe in getting rid of anger (Anger Resolution). Most of us learn how and when to be angry as children and continue to react the same way as adults. I work with you to eliminate anger by lowering reactivity and by helping you to explore new, more personally beneficial ways to respond to potentially rageful situations. No matter how angry you are, if you are coming to see me because you (or a loved one) feel that you need help with anger, I can help you. I am certified in Anger Resolution and I use many different techniques to lower your reactivity and help you eliminate rage--and not one of them includes counting to 10!

Many times anger is the only acceptable emotion, especially for men. Uncovering the feelings, emotions and frustrations that are behind that anger can completely change the dynamic. Let's work to understand what that anger is about and heal it. Decreasing anger can completely change your relationships and increase a sense of calmness and peace in your life. It is never too late to have a happy life.

Anger is a natural response we feel. Anger is not necessarily a bad thing. What we do with the anger can be another story. Acknowledging your anger and asking for help is a brave and responsible step to the right direction. Anger management therapy helps you gain insight into what triggers your anger as well as identifying the anger responses. You will also learn strategies to manage or diffuse it and changing thoughts and attitudes related to anger. Learning new skills and using certain exercises, you can develop the tools that help manage the anger in more healthy and productive ways.

I often coach men on how to better regulate their emotions, including anger. I can teach you strategies from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, provide relationship insights from the Gottman Method, and help you practice calming strategies to take control back. You might have every right to be angry. But if it’s making things worse, it’s time for a change. At Lion Counseling, our mission is to help you escape the cages that hold you back and become the lion God created you to be.

Men often express anger when they feel hurt or demeaned in some way. A man may misinterpret comments or remarks, however, and become upset as he is triggered by the meaning he assigns to them. We all get angry at times. Anger is like any other emotion, useful when expressed appropriately. Some of us, however, have an anger problem. I can help you learn how to control the anger you feel. I will teach you how to become aware of your automatic thoughts and how they have controlled you in the past. You will learn how to anticipate your "triggers" and control your responses to them.

Skills building interventions have been extremely successful in decreasing the negative effects of anger. At ART, clients learn to identify, develop and apply effective skills that reduce anger immediately!! It's not enough to TALK about what to do, but to PRACTICE the skills while in session. This way, you'll know exactly how to handle a situagtion that triggers anger. Protect your life and relationships! Learn how to use anger to your advantage.

In our group sessions and workshops the following questions will be answered: What is the biology and psychology of anger? What makes us angry and why? What is the connection between anger and stress? How do we recognize the beginning of anger in self and others (physical, mental and behavioral signs)? What have we been taught about anger and how to express it? What are some of the most effective methods for dealing with anger (recognize, evaluate, and cope)? How can we express anger in productive ways (assertive vs. aggressive, passive and passive aggressive)? How do we turn anger into a purposeful and mindful action without ignoring our needs and values? Group sessions run for 10 week-....

The purpose of Anger management is to help individuals find coping skills to decrease their feelings of anger and behaviors expressed through anger. First it is important to explore the root of anger (both internal and external events). Next, it is important to understand what purpose the anger induced behavior serves for the individual. The majority of the time finding an appropriate way to express anger through communication is the key to a decrease in the "angry" symptoms.

Understanding anger is crucial to being able to control it, redirect and sometimes honor it. Learning the difference between Assertive , Aggressive and Passive- Aggressive is key to owning and changing behavior. Constructive, considerate communication skills will help in all relationships; work, love and family. I work with individuals , couples, and groups.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is a secondary emotions; as such I believe one needs to become aware of the underline emotions and what is feeding it. Anger management involves a strategy to explore the meaning of the anger to the individual and their relationship. Understanding anger co-existing as systems of relationships or relational behaviors that one has the power to manage. Client assess for strengths unique to their lifestyle and experiences, which they have successfully used for anger management. Intertwined with the clients' strengths and suggestibility processed in therapy, the client determines what techniques will best be embraced to manage his/her anger. Client is encouraged to use what works and grow.

I have worked with many clients that express intense anger and my experience has led me to conclude that anger is just the tip of a complicated iceberg that has a history and reason to exist. Anger typically pushes people away and protects the person who is feeling it or holding onto to it from getting hurt again. I encourage my clients to share their anger with me and take an inquisitive approach into understanding the history and complexity of this feeling. Once the feeling is understood it is more simple to tame, and control the emotion.

Clients will gain an understanding of the root cause of their anger and how it affects their lives and their relationships. The counseling process will pull on the clients' strengths to deal with their anger triggers and mechanisms. Counseling will help the clients to recognize their thinking patterns and behaviors linked to their anger, while empowering them to change them in order to be free from their anger.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.