Anger Management and Counseling in Wellington, FL.

Anger management is “the process of learning to recognize signs that you are becoming angry and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a productive way.” Anger Management is a way of helping children and teens better regulate themselves. It is a process that promotes their ability of becoming aware of their feelings and reactions and, at the same time, develops healthier and more adequate strategies for them to better manage difficult situations. Thus, allowing individuals to learn how to relax, reorganize their thoughts and act more positively.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

Anger can be a powerful emotion, but when it feels overwhelming or out of control, it can disrupt your life and relationships. My approach to anger management is focused on understanding the root causes of your anger, identifying triggers, and developing practical strategies to respond in healthier ways. Together, we’ll create a supportive space to explore your emotions, build self-awareness, and learn techniques to manage anger constructively. You’ll gain tools to foster better communication, reduce conflict, and regain control.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Why do we get angry? Are we able to recognize our anger rather than deny it? Once we become aware of our anger and the problems it is creating in our life and in our relationships what do we do about it?These are the questions we help you answer and work through here at Gateway. Remember anger is a secondary emotion, meaning some other emotion is behind the anger. This emotion is often in the subconscious level of your life. Don't spend your life mad at the world and leave ruined relationships in your wake. Anger left alone only gets worse. The sooner you reach out for help the better.