Anger Management and Counseling in Palm Coast, FL.

Anger is possibly one of the most naked emotions. It reveals some things about us that no other emotion is capable of doing. Anger is defined as "longing, hoping, wanting desiring, yearning, hoping." In counseling we explore the root of our longing and differentiate between true anger and toxic rage, which are entirely different emotions and experience.

Anger and acting on anger are two different things , through my course and/or individual or group therapy you will learn to control the behavior and by default the outcome and often times , debilitating consequences that stem from this. I provide anger management courses in English and in Spanish. I also provide groups and individual therapy for court mandated or voluntary assignment.

Anger that is not dealt with and expressed explosively can result in damaged relationships, terminated friendships and jobs, embarrassment, guilt and even jail. If it’s held in, anger can result in heart disease, ulcers, anxiety, depression and bitterness. Anger isn’t right or wrong, it’s just an emotion. Emotion is energy in motion. You can learn how to calm yourself. I can teach you how to manage the energy of your anger. I can help you to heal from painful past event that may be fueling your present anger. This will empower you to set and hold your boundaries, communicate more effectively and face your challenges more creatively. See emdr.com for more info. and research.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger can be a powerful emotion, but when it feels overwhelming or out of control, it can disrupt your life and relationships. My approach to anger management is focused on understanding the root causes of your anger, identifying triggers, and developing practical strategies to respond in healthier ways. Together, we’ll create a supportive space to explore your emotions, build self-awareness, and learn techniques to manage anger constructively. You’ll gain tools to foster better communication, reduce conflict, and regain control.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.