Anger Management and Counseling in Lake Park, FL.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

Are you quick to get angry? Do you try to keep in under control until you can’t hold it anymore and then you explode? Does your anger interfere with you achieving your goals in life? Anger is an important feeling that tells us that something is wronged. In therapy you will learn to listen to your anger instead of vacillating between shutting it down and reacting too strongly to it. Your anger is not your enemy! I will help you to use your anger as a guide, understand your anger and get the important message underneath it and then act in alternative and more effective ways to get your needs met.

Why do we get angry? Are we able to recognize our anger rather than deny it? Once we become aware of our anger and the problems it is creating in our life and in our relationships what do we do about it?These are the questions we help you answer and work through here at Gateway. Remember anger is a secondary emotion, meaning some other emotion is behind the anger. This emotion is often in the subconscious level of your life. Don't spend your life mad at the world and leave ruined relationships in your wake. Anger left alone only gets worse. The sooner you reach out for help the better.

Sometimes anger and the inability to being able to cope really helps magnify addiction issues. Before substance or alcohol addiction can be addressed, the root cause needs to be examined. Our Licensed Professionals would ensure that all avenues would be explored in order to achieve changes in behavior. Then other issues can be address.

Almost everyone acts in ways that seem to make sense to them, and to serve their needs and wishes. My approach to anger management is to supply strategies that better enable people to see that excess anger does not make sense, and does not serve their their needs and wishes. Indeed, it usually sabotages their progress to attain their goals. From there, people quite naturally alter their behavior so as to help themselves. It is neither necessary nor desirable for me to attempt to change their behavior, because they will almost always do what makes sense to them.

I help clients identify the triggering emotion that is behind the anger. Using a cognitive approach and an Anger Management guide from SAMHSA clients are given different assignments to help them understand triggers, and learn different coping skills to use to manager the anger. One technique used is the anger meter where clients are asked to monitor their anger on a scale of 1 to 10. Counseling for anger helps a person establish or repair broken relationships, and can prevent someone from losing a job or a relationship.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Many times anger is the only acceptable emotion, especially for men. Uncovering the feelings, emotions and frustrations that are behind that anger can completely change the dynamic. Let's work to understand what that anger is about and heal it. Decreasing anger can completely change your relationships and increase a sense of calmness and peace in your life. It is never too late to have a happy life.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger issues can be so difficult to manage and come out of nowhere. When we work together, we will gently learn the core of the distress that you are experiencing. As we learn your life journey, we may find that some of the distress is rooted in early childhood trauma and attachment wounding. We will invite forth all parts of yourself and learn about the challenging messages you may have grown up with that manifested into the distress you feel today. Our anger can be a messenger, an alarm telling you that it is time to heal experiences from earlier in life. In our work together, we'll use EMDR, Emotion Focused Therapy and Expressive Arts to help you become your most authentic self.