Anger Management and Counseling in Estero, FL.

Anger is a natural feeling. It is how we express it that is critical to our relationships. Working on controlling anger to prevent it from becoming aggression is a goal for many. Sometimes we just feel like we can't take much more and it comes across more angry than we expected. To be angry is a normal range of feeling, to be aggressive may require some assistance. We can help!

Many times anger is the only acceptable emotion, especially for men. Uncovering the feelings, emotions and frustrations that are behind that anger can completely change the dynamic. Let's work to understand what that anger is about and heal it. Decreasing anger can completely change your relationships and increase a sense of calmness and peace in your life. It is never too late to have a happy life.

We help our clients to have greater understanding of themselves and their interactions with others to improve the quality of their relationships. We utilize mindfulness, self-exploration, and self-soothing techniques to help improve clients' emotional regulation skills. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR or ART, Trauma-Focused CBT, and Existential Therapy are especially helpful for healing trauma and improving interpersonal interactions with others.

Anger is an emotion. It is neither good or bad. It is reads not to let the sunset on our anger. It is what we do with our anger that determines the choice between good or bad. Anger tells us that something has to change. Anger is a motivator, it demands action. Do you have an action plan? Do you control anger or do you let it control you? Do you know your triggers eg. is there an emotional wound you are reacting from? If you find yourself in that place of rage and you are unable to calm; stop, move away, and then count at least to 10.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

DAVID HAS WORKED WITH SEVERAL COURT ORDERED INDIVIDUALS WHO STRUGGLE WITH ANGER MANAGEMENT. HE HELPS THE CLIENT FIND THE ORIGIN OF THIS DISORDER, THEN CREATES STEPS WITH THEM TO HEAL! IT WORKS. FROM EMOTIONAL REGULATION TO DEEP BREATHING METHODS, FROM CBT TO TALK THERAPY, AND WRITTEN EXERCISES THAT WILL SUMMARIZE ONES ANGER ISSUES FROM EARLIER IN LIFE.

If you have difficulties controlling your anger or if you are in need of anger management, please contact Dr. April. She will help you understand the underlying issues of your anger and how you display your anger. In addition, she will work with you in decreasing your triggers and increasing your coping skills. Thus instead of letting your anger become unmanageable, let Dr. April help you.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.