Grief and Loss Counseling in Sterling, CT.

All individuals, if they live enough years, experience the death of a significant other. However, not all bereavement occurs due to a loss from death, yet the emotional pain can be as severe if not worse. Separation, divorce, ambiguous loss, chronic or terminal illness, or loss of status (e.g., financial or social) also involve a grieving process for individuals, couples or families. Many times, the repercussions of a loss are manifested in other presenting problems, such as school or behavioral problems in children and relational discord in couples. Working this through in a safe therapeutic environment will help you develop a new identity, and reestablish balance in you relationships.

I believe that work plays a large role in how we perceive ourselves and others around us. The stages of change can generally apply to not only the loss of a loved one, but the loss of work, loss of a function, a child's innocence, and a multitude of other factors that greatly inhibit people from moving on in their lives. It's important to find the meaning through suffering and understand that we all have the freedom to make -sometimes undesirable- choices in our lives

Grief is a mountain that I can help you climb by restructuring your thinking concerning the loss. You can move on to new chapters in your life. Although grief is a natural expression of loss, you may find it difficult to cope. I help you through it while retaining a healthy perspective on life. Through the grief journey, you realize you can enjoy your life again, and the loss does not have to define you.

As a psychologist, I can give people the tools to deal with grief and loss, as well as to discuss the topic in ways geared toward working through the loss. Grief and loss are both issues that present themselves during the time of loss, but sometimes unresolved grief leads to changes in a person's life years or even decades later. I especially encourage people dealing with the latter to call me. Working through a distant loss can be extremely powerful. And understanding how it still affects you can feel good, as well as to open doors that were previously closed in life.

I remember many years ago learning in graduate school about a technique for rapidly helping people to deal with the pain of loss while retaining the memory of their loved one. To this day I remember the specifics of how to help people w/this therapeutic approach. I also utilize individual and family therapy models to help grieving people. Please do not hesitate to contact me for therapy or a referral.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Dealing with grief and loss are two of the five big emotionally distressing situations one can find themselves dealing with. It can be something big, such as the loss of a loved one to something smaller such as losing a family heirloom or an opportunity to get into a college or specific job. All if left unattended can lead to more severe situations. Learn to build your own psychological first aid kit in order to prevent or lessen the effects of smaller emotional "cuts" or allow yourself to sit with someone who can help you as your process a larger life event (death, chronic health issue) making it more manageable and returning you to a level of functionality before it occurred.

Grief is an individualized internal experience.There is no right way or right amount of time to grieve. Dialoguing about life and death, disappointments and future opportunities allows each person the space to grieve and also recreate their lives from this moment on. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I assist my clients as they experience the emotional pain and the full recognition of their loss. I support them as they build the emotional resilience to overcome their grief, turning their energy into future opportunities.