Grief and Loss Counseling in Old Lyme, CT.

I remember many years ago learning in graduate school about a technique for rapidly helping people to deal with the pain of loss while retaining the memory of their loved one. To this day I remember the specifics of how to help people w/this therapeutic approach. I also utilize individual and family therapy models to help grieving people. Please do not hesitate to contact me for therapy or a referral.

Grief and loss are processes and like many processes, they change and transform. What feels like heartbreak to you at first, may be transformed through our work together, into a heart that has an even greater capacity for love and connection. I believe that heartbreak is necessary to break open and expand the heart's horizons. You will never forget those who you have held so dear and lost, but through our work together, you will make peace with those losses and appreciate the gifts of those relationships.

I believe that work plays a large role in how we perceive ourselves and others around us. The stages of change can generally apply to not only the loss of a loved one, but the loss of work, loss of a function, a child's innocence, and a multitude of other factors that greatly inhibit people from moving on in their lives. It's important to find the meaning through suffering and understand that we all have the freedom to make -sometimes undesirable- choices in our lives

No one likes to lose, especially when it means losing someone they care so much about. A person who comes for grief and loss counseling will begin to make sense out of loss and realize that they can continue on with the loving memory of their lost one. They will be assisted through the grief stages in order to bring acceptance and peace to themselves.

As a psychologist, I can give people the tools to deal with grief and loss, as well as to discuss the topic in ways geared toward working through the loss. Grief and loss are both issues that present themselves during the time of loss, but sometimes unresolved grief leads to changes in a person's life years or even decades later. I especially encourage people dealing with the latter to call me. Working through a distant loss can be extremely powerful. And understanding how it still affects you can feel good, as well as to open doors that were previously closed in life.

Grief is an individualized internal experience.There is no right way or right amount of time to grieve. Dialoguing about life and death, disappointments and future opportunities allows each person the space to grieve and also recreate their lives from this moment on. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I assist my clients as they experience the emotional pain and the full recognition of their loss. I support them as they build the emotional resilience to overcome their grief, turning their energy into future opportunities.

Personal loss such as a loved one or due to trauma needs to be mourned in order to move on in one's life. This difficult process requires a 'witness' to the emotional loss. Psychoanalysis serves the function of enabling a person to speak about the loss. It enables an individual to remember in a way that enhances the individual survivor.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.