Family Counseling Services in Plainfield, CT.

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I have served as the emotional and verbal connection between family members. Modeling healthy dialogue and building emotional trust and intimacy, I facilitate family exercises. Having each member describe how their brain works, neurotypical or neurodivergent, and their emotional temperament, allows family members to know each other from the inside out. Each person describes what they need from the other to feel more understood, approved of, and loved. Pairing family members up to become partners in change to work collaboratively and collectively in building a healthy family culture for ongoing comfort and unity, has been a primary focus of my practice.

In professional counseling, we pride ourselves in specializing in many forms of counseling. During my time at my graduate school, I took two marriage and family courses. The most notable as being the Metaframeworks model under systems theory. Think of a family as an engine of a car, you hear a ticking. Is it the timing belt? What made this part break in the first place? Can there be more than one influence in any maladaptive behavior or pattern... The answer is yes.

Having difficulty with parenting? Miscommunication or no communication with your teenager or spouse? There are several behavioral and family systems approaches and tools avoidable which have a proven track record in being able to address and improve such situations. Learn how to identify unwritten, unspoken family rules. Learn the differences in the four distinct parenting types. Foster new ways of communicating with one another and pull your family back together.

Research shows trying to just “fix the kid” does not generally work. The family should be involved if at all possible. I made it a special point to learn the specific strategies and techniques for this population as I went through my schooling. To this day I have approx. one decade of experience in working with this population, and I look forward to continuing to work with children of all ages, particularly with family involvement.