Great Couples Counseling in Vernon, CT. Therapy to heal relationships.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Working with couples individually/collaboratively without blame or shame, assisting partners in understanding their role in the conflict, has been a primary focus of my 30+ years of clinical practice. I teach couples that there is no right way to live.The framework and ingredients are defined by each person in the relationship. Connection, not control, engagement, not enmeshment allow for ongoing individual growth and relationship capacity. Personal awareness, acknowledgement, new attitudes and behavioral action all contribute to building a bridge between partners. I assist my clients as they look to themselves not the other to create ongoing growth, capacity and fulfillment of commitment.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties dont agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161 DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

My passion is in helping couples, which is why I am here to help you both through utilizing emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT). EFCT is an evidenced based practice and helps couples get back into secure intimate connection through understanding what truly underlines the reactions you see in each other in moments of disconnect, which leads to gaining opportunities to heal wounds and restore intimacy.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with years of training and experience helping couples to navigate the most painful and difficult chapter in their relationships. I will guide you with compassion, empathy, and a skill set that is born in working with couples across the country in their healing journeys. I have been featured in Forbes, the Knot, and other leading media outlets discussing relationships, intimacy, and communication. I’d love to connect with you and your partner about the unique circumstances that you are facing and how I might be able to help.

While traditional 45-minutes-a-week talk therapy teaches communication skills, many couples can communicate perfectly well until their emotions get in the way. When your emotions hit an 8 or a 9 on a 0-10 scale, all of your communication skills instantly disappear. This is why, for couples with strong emotional reactions, traditional therapy can actually make things worse. I use 3-HOUR SESSIONS to help you identify and strengthen the positive parts of your relationship, eliminate the hot-buttons that drag you into those old vicious-circle arguments filled with hurt, anger or resentment and to develop the right emotional climate for healthy and productive communication

My therapy approach is well suited to help you understand yourself and your partner better. I will guide you to exprience your own insights about the nature of thought and how your thinking contributes to your experience of life and the relationship, moment by moment. I also provide a variety of resources for you to further your education between sessions..