Great Couples Counseling in Putnam, CT. Therapy to heal relationships.

Each individual comes from a rich background of experiences and cultural messages which ultimately leads to misunderstandings in communication. Couples counseling allows for a place for each person to explore and present their views in a safe and validating environment. From there it is then possible to map out goals as a team and address those underlying issues which show up in a relationship over and over.

I only see couples, it is my passion! We look at the negative cycles fueled by communication, money, parenting & blended families, careers, health, and/or sex/intimacy. When was the last time you had an open conversation with your partner that wasn't hijacked by your negative relationship cycle? I am also an affair specialist and have worked with countless couples to sift through the incredible pain to see if there is anything left of the relationship to be salvaged (in most cases, there is). I have met many couples who come in as roommates & leave my practice experiencing intimacy & being a better team that can make agreements and be in sync. My common sense approach fosters accountability

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Your relationship has the potential to become a place where you can bring more joy and happiness into your life. Couples therapy is the most challenging of therapies due to the emotional intensity of the couple’s dynamics. When both members of a couple are committed to repairing the relationship, working with a skilled clinician is highly rewarding and successful. Couples entering counseling who have a mixed agenda where splitting up is a possibility, need help to discern and determine their goals. I see couples together as well as individually, and work with them to determine what would need to change for them achieve increased affection and the closeness they had when they first met.

Working with couples individually/collaboratively without blame or shame, assisting partners in understanding their role in the conflict, has been a primary focus of my 30+ years of clinical practice. I teach couples that there is no right way to live.The framework and ingredients are defined by each person in the relationship. Connection, not control, engagement, not enmeshment allow for ongoing individual growth and relationship capacity. Personal awareness, acknowledgement, new attitudes and behavioral action all contribute to building a bridge between partners. I assist my clients as they look to themselves not the other to create ongoing growth, capacity and fulfillment of commitment.