Great Couples Counseling in New Milford, CT. Therapy to heal relationships.

Behavioral Marital Therapy is used focusing on individual responsibility for his/her actions and level of satisfaction in the relationship.Couples identify desired changes in behavior and then talking about new actions. Couples make agreements or contracts and learned communication and problem solving. Self-regulation on the part of both partners to achieve mutual satisfaction in the relationship was embraced as a key component to what was increasingly called "couples counseling" rather than "marital counseling".

Couples share experiences that can make them fall in love. As time goes by, events can alter their relationship and change how they view each other. When the quality of the relationship begins to have them question its value, it’s time to make a change. Through this journey, I teach more useful communication skills that validate and promote a more connected relationship, while reinforcing the good feelings and behaviors they experience. Couples can learn better communication and healthier behaviors. With fresh perspectives, I can guide you into a more mature, caring, and compassionate relationship.

Couples are my passion and all I work with. We look at the negative cycles fueled by communication, money, parenting & blended families, careers, health, and/or sex/intimacy. When was the last time you had an open conversation with your partner that wasn't hijacked by your negative relationship cycle? I am also an affair specialist and have worked with countless couples to sift through the incredible pain to see if there is anything left of the relationship to be salvaged (in most cases, there is). I have met many couples who come in as roommates, where deep wounds are present. Couples feel like my office is a safe place to share, connect, and be heard.

Working with couples individually/collaboratively without blame or shame, assisting partners in understanding their role in the conflict, has been a primary focus of my 30+ years of clinical practice. I teach couples that there is no right way to live.The framework and ingredients are defined by each person in the relationship. Connection, not control, engagement, not enmeshment allow for ongoing individual growth and relationship capacity. Personal awareness, acknowledgement, new attitudes and behavioral action all contribute to building a bridge between partners. I assist my clients as they look to themselves not the other to create ongoing growth, capacity and fulfillment of commitment.

Whatever the make up of the couple I can help. Whether it is with parenting, communication,connection,infidelity or lack of feeling loved we will work together. I will look at the patterns that are present in relationship and bring to light your process with each other. Next I will assist you and changing your dance with each other so the issue is no longer an issues and both parties are ready to move forward on an agreed upon path.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Modern married life is tough on couples. When one or both of the partners has a demanding career, you may feel the expectation to be perfect. In addition, you add the stresses that come with parenting and your marriage can face enormous pressure. When you and your spouse stop communicating, your relationship can feel the impact. You are less likely to feel understood or known by your partner. Communication difficulties magnify your challenges and contribute to loss of trust, honesty, and connection.