Great Couples Counseling in Harwinton, CT. Therapy to heal relationships.

Behavioral Marital Therapy is used focusing on individual responsibility for his/her actions and level of satisfaction in the relationship.Couples identify desired changes in behavior and then talking about new actions. Couples make agreements or contracts and learned communication and problem solving. Self-regulation on the part of both partners to achieve mutual satisfaction in the relationship was embraced as a key component to what was increasingly called "couples counseling" rather than "marital counseling".

Working with couples individually/collaboratively without blame or shame, assisting partners in understanding their role in the conflict, has been a primary focus of my 30+ years of clinical practice. I teach couples that there is no right way to live.The framework and ingredients are defined by each person in the relationship. Connection, not control, engagement, not enmeshment allow for ongoing individual growth and relationship capacity. Personal awareness, acknowledgement, new attitudes and behavioral action all contribute to building a bridge between partners. I assist my clients as they look to themselves not the other to create ongoing growth, capacity and fulfillment of commitment.

Couples counseling is not easy. Each person may be feeling hurt, afraid, unsettled, etc. We are here to work with both of you along the way to identify what the problems are and how we all can work together to make some progress. Maintaining a healthy relationship takes work so you are not alone seeking couples therapy. This process can be extremely helpful to so many couples to learn better ways to communicate, understand their partner, and lead healthier relationships in the future. Give us a call to be matched up with a couples counselor today!

We are built to couple up. Having someone to walk with us through life and all the difficulties and challenges that come with it is really important. However, conflict is normal in all relationships and all couples need help navigating the complexities of every relationship. Having the space to regularly address and reconnect with your intimate partner is paramount.

While traditional 45-minutes-a-week talk therapy teaches communication skills, many couples can communicate perfectly well until their emotions get in the way. When your emotions hit an 8 or a 9 on a 0-10 scale, all of your communication skills instantly disappear. This is why, for couples with strong emotional reactions, traditional therapy can actually make things worse. I use 3-HOUR SESSIONS to help you identify and strengthen the positive parts of your relationship, eliminate the hot-buttons that drag you into those old vicious-circle arguments filled with hurt, anger or resentment and to develop the right emotional climate for healthy and productive communication

My therapy approach is well suited to help you understand yourself and your partner better. I will guide you to exprience your own insights about the nature of thought and how your thinking contributes to your experience of life and the relationship, moment by moment. I also provide a variety of resources for you to further your education between sessions..

I love to work with couples, and find that they are both individuals with a different set of DNA. I work with the couples to help improving communication, intimacy, and to resolve their differences. I also work with couples who are separating to better understand the emotional grieving, and change that they will be transitioning too, and its effects on the family and how to cope with those effects.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with years of training and experience helping couples to navigate the most painful and difficult chapter in their relationships. I will guide you with compassion, empathy, and a skill set that is born in working with couples across the country in their healing journeys. I have been featured in Forbes, the Knot, and other leading media outlets discussing relationships, intimacy, and communication. I’d love to connect with you and your partner about the unique circumstances that you are facing and how I might be able to help.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php