Great Couples Counseling in Brookfield, CT. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples counseling involves learning to listen, agreeing to disagree and having mutual respect for self and others. This reaches beyond marriage- it can be any type of relationship. I am currently studying the Gottmann Method for Couples Counseling and know how to facilitate communication skills to bring a clear understanding and better engagement strategies for couples.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties dont agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161 DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Couples are my passion and all I work with. We look at the negative cycles fueled by communication, money, parenting & blended families, careers, health, and/or sex/intimacy. When was the last time you had an open conversation with your partner that wasn't hijacked by your negative relationship cycle? I am also an affair specialist and have worked with countless couples to sift through the incredible pain to see if there is anything left of the relationship to be salvaged (in most cases, there is). I have met many couples who come in as roommates, where deep wounds are present. Couples feel like my office is a safe place to share, connect, and be heard.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Behavioral Marital Therapy is used focusing on individual responsibility for his/her actions and level of satisfaction in the relationship.Couples identify desired changes in behavior and then talking about new actions. Couples make agreements or contracts and learned communication and problem solving. Self-regulation on the part of both partners to achieve mutual satisfaction in the relationship was embraced as a key component to what was increasingly called "couples counseling" rather than "marital counseling".

Whatever the make up of the couple I can help. Whether it is with parenting, communication,connection,infidelity or lack of feeling loved we will work together. I will look at the patterns that are present in relationship and bring to light your process with each other. Next I will assist you and changing your dance with each other so the issue is no longer an issues and both parties are ready to move forward on an agreed upon path.

Communication and respect are often considered the cornerstones of a fruitful relationship. However, often times couples loose sight of the things that initially brought them together. Spending hours talking to and listening to their significant other, date nights, movie nights and outings with friends and family. These treasures often get pushed aside when the reality of life gets set in motion. I work with couples in clearly defining the goals and objectives of their relationships, addressing challenging misconceptions, infidelity, family and work related issues. Couples who work hard and develop clear goals often reap the benefits of better communication, intimacy and love.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with years of training and experience helping couples to navigate the most painful and difficult chapter in their relationships. I will guide you with compassion, empathy, and a skill set that is born in working with couples across the country in their healing journeys. I have been featured in Forbes, the Knot, and other leading media outlets discussing relationships, intimacy, and communication. I’d love to connect with you and your partner about the unique circumstances that you are facing and how I might be able to help.

My approach to working with couples begins with seeing both clients together to gain an understanding of their dynamic as well as the individual issues (including family of origin) that have brought them into therapy. I then help them determine their goals as a couple and develop a treatment plan, including empathic listening, relationship exercises, and communications counseling, that will help them achieve their objectives.

Couples share experiences that can make them fall in love. As time goes by, events can alter their relationship and change how they view each other. When the quality of the relationship begins to have them question its value, it’s time to make a change. Through this journey, I teach more useful communication skills that validate and promote a more connected relationship, while reinforcing the good feelings and behaviors they experience. Couples can learn better communication and healthier behaviors. With fresh perspectives, I can guide you into a more mature, caring, and compassionate relationship.

Working with couples individually/collaboratively without blame or shame, assisting partners in understanding their role in the conflict, has been a primary focus of my 30+ years of clinical practice. I teach couples that there is no right way to live.The framework and ingredients are defined by each person in the relationship. Connection, not control, engagement, not enmeshment allow for ongoing individual growth and relationship capacity. Personal awareness, acknowledgement, new attitudes and behavioral action all contribute to building a bridge between partners. I assist my clients as they look to themselves not the other to create ongoing growth, capacity and fulfillment of commitment.

Couples counseling is not easy. Each person may be feeling hurt, afraid, unsettled, etc. We are here to work with both of you along the way to identify what the problems are and how we all can work together to make some progress. Maintaining a healthy relationship takes work so you are not alone seeking couples therapy. This process can be extremely helpful to so many couples to learn better ways to communicate, understand their partner, and lead healthier relationships in the future. Give us a call to be matched up with a couples counselor today!

Modern married life is tough on couples. When one or both of the partners has a demanding career, you may feel the expectation to be perfect. In addition, you add the stresses that come with parenting and your marriage can face enormous pressure. When you and your spouse stop communicating, your relationship can feel the impact. You are less likely to feel understood or known by your partner. Communication difficulties magnify your challenges and contribute to loss of trust, honesty, and connection.

Regardless of the length of the relationship, couples are constantly learning how to live as a unit while maintaining their individuality. This delicate balancing act can become frustrating and put a strain on the relationship. Knowing how to negotiate by using effective communication techniques, building trust, and respect will go a long way in enhancing your relationship and reducing strife. I can help you on this beautiful and rewarding journey as you both learn how to manage conflict and create ways to support each other’s hope for the future.