Anger Management and Counseling in Wethersfield, CT.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

On a scale of 0-10 when you are at a 4, 5 or 6 you are angry, when you are at an 8, 9 or 10 you are in a rage. Rage occurs when one upsetting event piles onto another and another, and you never have time to fully heal from any of them. Rage comes up quicker, builds stronger and lasts longer; you say and do things that you would never imagine at any other time. You see red and don’t care about your reputation, the future, the consequences or what effect it is having on your family or career. We focus on helping you to fully resolve your rage at it's root so that you can start having just normal anger - that gets your point across but doesn't do damage - like everybody else.

Erupting and lashing out to relieve your pain creates disruption in your everyday life. While anger is a healthy emotion, lashing out and rage creates guilt and relationship destruction. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I have provided my clients with a non-judgemental safe environment so together we can build a trust where they can be open and honest without embarrassment or shame. In letting down their defenses and acknowledging their behavior, my clients learn how to emotionally regulate their pain by taking ownership and removing themselves from the current situation, which gives them space to provide a more regulated and healthy response.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be very beneficial for helping to control your anger through the use of relaxation techniques, stress-coping thoughts for anger, identifying and changing thought patterns and more. You will learn to be more aware of internal body cues and find healthier ways of releasing stress and tension that build up to trigger your anger.

I work with the client in regards to current anger, past history of anger, and family history of anger. I work with the client to identify current stress, and to especially identify emotions including sadness, fear, confusion, and to identify coping skills to either work with family members, a boss, or co-workers. I feel that improving communication skills, problem solving skills, and developing a strong support network are vital to better understand and work regarding anger in a healthy, non-threatening way.

Anger is both a natural and necessary emotion. It is a vital part of our preservation instinct. But when your anger causes troubles--say at work, in relationships, to your health-- it becomes critical that you develop new ways to address anger: methods that help decrease how frequently or intensely you get angry, and that lead to more effective responses to anger. Dr. Goldstein addresses anger from a realistic, practical perspective that can help you enjoy a healthier, more constructive approach to your life in the face of anger.

Anger is said to be a secondary emotion and yet it is so prevalent in many of our lives. People struggling with Anger and the havoc that it causes in ones life can be destructive to an individual or family system. Individuals will look at the differences between rational and irrational thought. Identify for themselves what happens to their body that sends the message they are angry before doing something they regret. They will learn different coping strategies to manage the intensity of their emotions so that anger no longer rules their life.

You might find yourself experiencing intense anger that is hard to manage or control. Emotionally focused therapy can help uncover the roots of where your anger is coming from, grow your ability to act on the anger differently, and be able to become more connected to yourself in the process. I will often integrate internal family systems methods and psycho-education to grow in awareness and compassion towards yourself, while also gaining new ways to cope with your anger.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.