Anger Management and Counseling in Putnam, CT.

Anger is a complex and often misrepresented emotion. The danger of undiagnosed, high levels of anger can have harmful consequences for individuals, families and careers. As we work together, I can help you understand patterns of anger and its origins, as well as how to calm that part of you, and how to repair the relationships that were damaged as a result of anger directed at others. Examples of questions to ask yourself are: How has your anger been a liability to you and/or your loved ones? What has been the most profound cost of your anger? In the past, how have you had success controlling your anger or keeping it at bay? When your anger is better, who will be the first person to notice?

Becoming upset or angry is a fact of being human. These upsets are usually tied to three specific elements which are addressed while in session. One example being an unfulfilled expectation - that is, you thought something would turn out one way, yet it turned out another. This naturally makes one upset. How you deal with it is another matter altogether. This service will help you first become clear on the three elements of an upset, teach you ways to get out in front of automatic responses and make sure you have a new set of tools to better be able to manage such situations when they arise.

Erupting and lashing out to relieve your pain creates disruption in your everyday life. While anger is a healthy emotion, lashing out and rage creates guilt and relationship destruction. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I have provided my clients with a non-judgemental safe environment so together we can build a trust where they can be open and honest without embarrassment or shame. In letting down their defenses and acknowledging their behavior, my clients learn how to emotionally regulate their pain by taking ownership and removing themselves from the current situation, which gives them space to provide a more regulated and healthy response.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.