Anger Management and Counseling in North Canaan, CT.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Clients who consult with me regarding their anger and their difficulty in controlling their impulses. experience my interest and support in helping them to both understand how their anger came to be so big as well as to help them to repair the relationships that have been hurt by their anger. They are helped to understand that their anger is frequently a response to their experience of loss of some kind and that these losses can be defined and understood. Such losses range from loss of opportunity, to loss of money, to loss of a relationship. to loss of self-esteem.

I work with the client in regards to current anger, past history of anger, and family history of anger. I work with the client to identify current stress, and to especially identify emotions including sadness, fear, confusion, and to identify coping skills to either work with family members, a boss, or co-workers. I feel that improving communication skills, problem solving skills, and developing a strong support network are vital to better understand and work regarding anger in a healthy, non-threatening way.

Anger Management can be a difficult thing to overcome. The first objective is to uncover where this is coming from and how you can build up the skillset to work through these feelings so you can communicate what is going on effectively. Most times people with anger issues, are impacted at home, work, school, friends, relationships, etc. You do not need to do this alone and we can get you. Contact us to get started today.

My therapy approach is well suited to anger management because all emotions begin with our thoughts. I will guide you to exprience your own insights about the nature of thought and how your thinking contributes to your expeience of frustration which ultimately leads to anger. I also provide a variety of resources for you so that you feel supported while you go through the process.

On a scale of 0-10 when you are at a 4, 5 or 6 you are angry, when you are at an 8, 9 or 10 you are in a rage. Rage occurs when one upsetting event piles onto another and another, and you never have time to fully heal from any of them. Rage comes up quicker, builds stronger and lasts longer; you say and do things that you would never imagine at any other time. You see red and don’t care about your reputation, the future, the consequences or what effect it is having on your family or career. We focus on helping you to fully resolve your rage at it's root so that you can start having just normal anger - that gets your point across but doesn't do damage - like everybody else.

Erupting and lashing out to relieve your pain creates disruption in your everyday life. While anger is a healthy emotion, lashing out and rage creates guilt and relationship destruction. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I have provided my clients with a non-judgemental safe environment so together we can build a trust where they can be open and honest without embarrassment or shame. In letting down their defenses and acknowledging their behavior, my clients learn how to emotionally regulate their pain by taking ownership and removing themselves from the current situation, which gives them space to provide a more regulated and healthy response.