Anger Management and Counseling in Clinton, CT.

We all have certain emotions that are easier for us to express than others. While some have difficulty expressing anger, others find it the "safest" emotion to express. For those of you who have problems managing your angry expression we will explore together, how and when this pattern has developed, what purpose it has served in your life, and what other feelings this anger may be masking. Our work together will provide you with tools to healthily and respectfully express the full range of your emotions to enhance the emotional richness and range in your relationships with others.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Erupting and lashing out to relieve your pain creates disruption in your everyday life. While anger is a healthy emotion, lashing out and rage creates guilt and relationship destruction. In my 30+ years of clinical practice, I have provided my clients with a non-judgemental safe environment so together we can build a trust where they can be open and honest without embarrassment or shame. In letting down their defenses and acknowledging their behavior, my clients learn how to emotionally regulate their pain by taking ownership and removing themselves from the current situation, which gives them space to provide a more regulated and healthy response.

Anger is said to be a secondary emotion and yet it is so prevalent in many of our lives. People struggling with Anger and the havoc that it causes in ones life can be destructive to an individual or family system. Individuals will look at the differences between rational and irrational thought. Identify for themselves what happens to their body that sends the message they are angry before doing something they regret. They will learn different coping strategies to manage the intensity of their emotions so that anger no longer rules their life.

There are many theories behind what makes people angry. Some people say that depression is anger turned inwards and others say that anger is an attempt to control someone else. What I truly care about with my clients is that they are simply able to identify when they are angry and how to respond accordingly. Typically the wiring inside of your head makes you react first and ask questions later. My job is for that gap (reaction and response time) to become shorter and shorter, and to help prevent these episodes from ever occurring

Because "lashing out" or difficulty managing anger can happen for many reasons, I tailor my approach to each person. I first try to understand why it is happening, and treat the underlying reasons. Some people have powerful emotions and need skills to manage them, others have a traumatic past that needs exploration, while others may have anxiety or depression and may feel extremely irritable, thus "snapping" at their loved ones.