Great Couples Counseling in Boulder, CO. Therapy to heal relationships.

I have been in good relationships (I am currently happily married) and bad relationships, as we all have. I believe my personal experience with relationships, my schooling and training allows me to be a objective and compassionate partner in working with couples. Relationships are hard, no doubt about it, but by working through the issues they can improve.

Are you feeling lonely in your own marriage? Disrespected? Misunderstood? It doesn’t have to stay this way. Far too often, high-achieving men feel disrespected and lonely within their own marriages. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I help men and their wives to rediscover the incredible value they bring to the marriage, and help them negotiate a hopeful path forward. I will help you identify destructive patterns in your marriage and provide healthier alternatives. I’ll help you improve communication, learn to fight fair, and increase understanding and connection. While it’s not easy work, there is hope. If given the chance, I would be honored to help you fight for your marriage.

Are you feeling fed up with your relationship? Are you and your partner growing apart? Do you find that fighting and arguing happen more often than laughing and snuggling? Being in an unhappy romantic relationship affects your emotional and physical health and tears your family apart. But things CAN get better. You can learn skills and strategies to forgive and work together, even when things seem hopeless. Couples counseling brings you closer and makes your relationship stronger. We understand that marriage requires a lot of work, but you can have the relationship you've always wanted. Call today to schedule your free consultation. (970) 227-2770

It's natural for conflict and other issues to arise in a couple since you're two separate people with your own histories and upbringings coming together in relationship. The key is being able to self-regulate through difficult emotions, and communicate about what's happening effectively with your partner. When you can both stay calm, you'll be able to find new solutions to the issues that have come up in your relationship. I'm here to support you in identifying the issues causing conflict in your relationship, getting to the root of them, communicating effectively about them, and coming up with solutions that work.

In couples therapy, I collaborate with you to explore the stories shaping your relationship and examine how certain narratives may be influencing patterns between you and your partner. Rather than assigning blame, we work together to see the relationship’s challenges as external influences, making room for understanding and empathy. By identifying shared values and preferred ways of relating, we co-create new narratives that support deeper connection, trust, and intimacy. This process helps both partners reconnect with each other in ways that honor each person's voice and foster a stronger, more resilient partnership.

I teach couples "Full Respect Living." This is Terry Real's term for mastering the skills of relational living. Some of the skills I will teach you are: 1) sustaining healthy self-esteem, 2) maintaining healthy boundaries, 3) living in moderation, 4) acting on behalf of the relationship, and 5) negotiating wisely. It is often the case that practicing these skills can help you turn around a deteriorating couple relationship very quickly. However, when repetitive harmful patterns are operating in the relationship, we will need to look more deeply. I will help you to understand and change the self-defeating patterns that you have brought from your childhood into the current situation