Anger Management and Counseling in Boulder, CO.

Anger management is about impulse control. I can help you learn to experience and explore your angry and violent impulses without ACTING off of them. Angry feelings flow naturally from a great many life situations (e.g. competition, losses, personal violations, insults, dismissals, etc.). We usually do not recognize that our old unfinished business is behind our aggressive temper and behavior. I can help you identify your personal triggers, move away from the person who is setting you off in the moment, and work on your infinished business in private healthy ways.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger can come from a few different things; your boundaries aren't being respected, a catalyzing energy telling you that things need to change, or old wounds from childhood getting touched by current interactions with others. Anger is a signal to you to reclaim your personal power; a fire giving you the fuel you need to create change. I'm here to help you get to the root of the anger and to self-regulate through anger and other difficult emotions, so you can show up as more calm and grounded in your life.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I don't offer traditional anger management therapy, but believe that by using mindfulness tools, practicing meditation, learning how to regulate emotions and accepting what is out of our control one can overcome issues with not being able to manage their anger. If we don't properly process and deal with what's bothering us it is going to end up coming out sideways. This make take the form of depression or anxiety or anger, but that energy will seek an outlet somewhere. I believe we can work together to learn to process these difficult emotions so that you don't have to act out in anger.

Our counselors strive to combine time-tested therapeutic techniques with the latest in psychotherapy research to provide you with the best and most effective anger management techniques available. We have several counselors on staff to ensure that you will always be able to access someone who specializes in your needs without waiting. Do you know what it will take to achieve your optimal life? If not, it's okay, we're here to help. (970) 227-2770

In anger management, we explore anger as a significant emotion in your life—sometimes as a core feeling, other times as a protective layer over deeper emotions, such as fear. Together, we look at anger as an influence rather than a personal flaw, identifying patterns and situations where it arises. By examining what anger might be protecting and developing ways to engage with it constructively, we create space for new responses that align with your values, fostering respect, calm, and more fulfilling connections in your relationships.