Grief and Loss Counseling in Valley Center, CA.

Grief and loss can lead us to dark, isolated places. We may push people away, lose interest and motivation, and reach for self- destructive coping mechanisms. It can be difficult to navigate your way out and allow healing to take place because it feels like you are "letting go", which doesn't feel right. The deep pain of grief can also be looked at as love and caring that has no place to go. Feeling lost and alone, alcohol and/or drugs can give us a place to push away our pain. However, the immediate, but short-lived numbness can keep us stuck in the process of grief and loss. You don't have to navigate this alone. Counseling can help you find inner peace within the internal struggle

Most of us are familiar with Elizabeth Kubler Ross' model of grief with the 5 stages. While this is helpful information, this model does not fit everyone. I practice from the Winslade and Hedtke model of grief which practices "Remembering". I find that using this model or this model in conjunction with the 5 stage grief model is helpful to helping clients explore loss and grief in finding a pathway forward that honors their own experiences.

My practice is centered around helping my clients find their own unique paths to healing from grief and loss. I use a combination of psychoanalytically-informed therapy and psychodynamic therapy to help people find the courage to be with and move through their pain. My goal is to provide comfort and support to my patients, while also helping them to uncover their hidden strengths and resources. I believe in the power of meaningful relationships and strive to create a safe and secure space for my patients to explore their feelings and experiences.

Grief and loss comes in many shapes and forms and can take a toll on various aspects of your life. Processing grief and loss takes time and is different for everyone but doesn’t have to be done alone. I will offer support, empathy, and a safe space for you to process your emotions openly. Together we will get through this difficult time in your life. You are not alone.

I am an Internationally Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor. I have a long personal and professional history with addiction, mental illness, and trauma. I specialize in counseling addiction clients who struggle with anger management, men's issues, and childhood trauma. However, that by no means a complete list of the issues I can assist you with. No matter what else you may be struggling with, we will work together to discover thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that just aren't working for you anymore. We will then get to forming new behaviors, perspectives, and strategies that will help you live a more fulfilling life!

Grieving cannot be done alone. All you can do by yourself is be sad and alone. This is not healing. Grieving is a process that has a beginning and an end and must include one other person who is understanding and compassionate. If you are tired of feeling like no one understands your loss on an emotional level, then set up an appointment with Thomas Schmierer, Catholic Therapist, LMFT today.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you dont include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

Grief can be a difficulty beast to manage, a beast which can surface at any moment without warning and often comes in waves. When I’ve been grieving I’ve felt like I was in an emotional pong ball. With the aid of tools like EMDR CBT and guided visualizations I can help you to heal and leave the pain, loss, and grief in the past while holding on to the happy memories. Additionally, I can provide tools, coping skills, and other resources to help you manage this particular issue.

Grief and loss is a painful and individual experience. Individuals express and experience bereavement in their own unique way. Grief work is beneficial to individuals dealing with bereavement because it provides one with the opportunity to process the loss, release painful emotions, develop constructive coping mechanisms and reinvest one's emotional energy in the present. Grief work also allows one to develop a new connection to the loss and provides one with a unique opportunity for personal growth.

Grief and loss is a part of so much more than many recognize in every day life. Most folks are familiar with the Kubler-Ross stages, but processing grief is much more than those five stages. There are tasks of mourning that can be explored and expanded with support in therapy. There are secondary losses as a result of an initial loss. Grief impacts how open we feel to new relationships in our lives. I work with clients to help them understand their responses to grief, move through their grief and feelings through expressive arts and verbal processing.

Grief is hard. Grief is natural. Animals grieve. Grief is something we feel deep in our bodies and can be disorienting and destabilizing. Grief brings up questions about who we are, the world, the existence or goodness of God, and purpose and futility of life. Dealing with grief, especially when the loss is traumatic and unexpected, requires a slow and tender space to allow the grief to move through our body and to settle in our hearts with warmth and memory. I am here to help you grieve the loss of your loved one, experience, health , future or even your beloved pet. .

Grief is only natural after suffering a significant loss. Nevertheless, it can take a great toll on our mental and physical well-being--and just because it is a naturally part of our life experiences, doesn't mean we should suffer alone. When working with clients who are in mourning, I provide warm and patient supportive counseling, as well as effective psychotherapy tailored to help the client cope with feelings of deep sadness and sorrow, with an eye towards ultimately finding meaning and hope moving forward.

Grief and loss are a part of life and how we deal with it are our feelings around it is very important for internal relief. I help clients undue unwilled and unwanted unbearable aloneness. This can come from many different areas in our lives such as past or present trauma, loss of a relationship, death of a loved one, etc.. Helping clients move through the grief and loss process with support and care is a priority to me.

There are a lot of myths and societal expectations about grieving that can lead us to feeling alone, stuck in anger, or guilty. CBT and Mindfulness techniques focus on learning how to grieve in a healthy way and breaking old beliefs or coping patterns that may be interfering with this. This can include learning about the grief process, figuring out what exactly you are grieving (loss is relative, and can take many forms), and learning how to come in and out of emotional pain in a structured and safe way.

Grief and Loss are some of the most difficult transitions we encounter in life. You can learn emotional release, Mindfulness and other skills as ways to ease the pain and suffering that these losses can create. Although it may not feel like it when you encounter a loss, facing the challenge can be transformational. New understandings can unfold from going through these situations consciously. With the right support your heart can heal and you can move on in life with ease and grace. i collaborate with you to balance conflicting parts of your life and to transform difficult stresses into meaningful challenges.

When we lose someone we love, it feels like we have lost a part of ourselves. Something within us has been torn out, leaving a hole that we easily imagine will never heal. The pain can be profound, the feelings of helplessness, or regret, or guilt overwhelming. Having a partnership where you can talk through these feelings can make a huge difference not only in how quickly and how well you are able to move through the process of grieving, but also how you ultimately are able to frame the experience and your memories of the person lost into the narrative of your own self and life as you move forward. What you carry with you afterward is just as important as surviving the hurt of the loss.

EXPERIENCING THE INTENSE PAIN OF LOSS? Whether it is due to the loss of a loved one, a job or something that means a lot to you, I can help! In counseling you can work through the feelings of sadness, grief, emptiness, regret, anger, guilt, frustration… so that you can come to terms with unfinished businesses and move on to healing, recovery, growth and empowerment. Don't hesitate to call me for a free telephone consultation session.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Therapy for grief and loss can be deeply healing for you, offering a compassionate space to navigate the complex emotions associated with loss. In therapy, you can openly express your feelings and process your grief in your own time and I'll help you find relief from overwhelming emotions and begin to heal. Therapy provides tools to cope with sadness, anger, and other intense feelings, and it can help you establish a new sense of normalcy. Additionally, you can gain insight into how your loss has impacted your life and learn healthy ways to honor your loved one while moving forward. This support can lead to greater emotional resilience and a renewed sense of hope.

Grief and loss are a part of life yet can feel overwhelming! If you are suffering from illness, the death of a loved one, loss of a job or relationship, or going through life transitions, therapy can assist in your healing. Grief can be isolating. Individuals, couples, and families can learn to stay connected rather than be torn apart during these difficult times. Learning to cope with your situation in an accepting atmosphere can help you develop a renewed sense of hope and renewed connection, first to yourself and then to significant others. You do not need to go through your pain alone!