Grief and Loss Counseling in Carlsbad, CA.

Grief and loss are a part of life yet can feel overwhelming! If you are suffering from illness, the death of a loved one, loss of a job or relationship, or going through life transitions, therapy can assist in your healing. Grief can be isolating. Individuals, couples, and families can learn to stay connected rather than be torn apart during these difficult times. Learning to cope with your situation in an accepting atmosphere can help you develop a renewed sense of hope and renewed connection, first to yourself and then to significant others. You do not need to go through your pain alone!

My practice is centered around helping my clients find their own unique paths to healing from grief and loss. I use a combination of psychoanalytically-informed therapy and psychodynamic therapy to help people find the courage to be with and move through their pain. My goal is to provide comfort and support to my patients, while also helping them to uncover their hidden strengths and resources. I believe in the power of meaningful relationships and strive to create a safe and secure space for my patients to explore their feelings and experiences.

Free 30 minute video call - Grief & Loss are normal experiences in life. Yet, they are often overwhelming - combining experiences of sadness, fear, anxiety, surprise, disorientation, loneliness, confusion & more. Grief is truly not meant to be experienced alone. The guidance of a caring therapist & the support of loving friends, family & community is invaluable and essential during deep grief. Grief takes time, comes in waves and needs expression in multiple ways, through tears, writing, talking, releasing sounds, connecting to one's spirituality or religion and even through creative expression such as music, painting or poetry, all of which I can guide you through as your grief counselor.

Grieving cannot be done alone. All you can do by yourself is be sad and alone. This is not healing. Grieving is a process that has a beginning and an end and must include one other person who is understanding and compassionate. If you are tired of feeling like no one understands your loss on an emotional level, then set up an appointment with Thomas Schmierer, Catholic Therapist, LMFT today.

When we lose someone we love, it feels like we have lost a part of ourselves. Something within us has been torn out, leaving a hole that we easily imagine will never heal. The pain can be profound, the feelings of helplessness, or regret, or guilt overwhelming. Having a partnership where you can talk through these feelings can make a huge difference not only in how quickly and how well you are able to move through the process of grieving, but also how you ultimately are able to frame the experience and your memories of the person lost into the narrative of your own self and life as you move forward. What you carry with you afterward is just as important as surviving the hurt of the loss.

Therapy for grief and loss can be deeply healing for you, offering a compassionate space to navigate the complex emotions associated with loss. In therapy, you can openly express your feelings and process your grief in your own time and I'll help you find relief from overwhelming emotions and begin to heal. Therapy provides tools to cope with sadness, anger, and other intense feelings, and it can help you establish a new sense of normalcy. Additionally, you can gain insight into how your loss has impacted your life and learn healthy ways to honor your loved one while moving forward. This support can lead to greater emotional resilience and a renewed sense of hope.

Grief can be a difficulty beast to manage, a beast which can surface at any moment without warning and often comes in waves. When I’ve been grieving I’ve felt like I was in an emotional pong ball. With the aid of tools like EMDR CBT and guided visualizations I can help you to heal and leave the pain, loss, and grief in the past while holding on to the happy memories. Additionally, I can provide tools, coping skills, and other resources to help you manage this particular issue.

Are you using alcohol, substances, or addictive behaviors to cope with grief and loss? Although they provide relief in the short term, their long-term effects on your relationships and health can make it even more difficult to cope. Through a compassionate non-judgmental approach, I help clients explore their relationship to grief and loss so that they can overcome addictive coping strategies. If you're looking for another way forward, feel free to reach out and we can set up a free consultation to discuss further.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you dont include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

There are a lot of myths and societal expectations about grieving that can lead us to feeling alone, stuck in anger, or guilty. CBT and Mindfulness techniques focus on learning how to grieve in a healthy way and breaking old beliefs or coping patterns that may be interfering with this. This can include learning about the grief process, figuring out what exactly you are grieving (loss is relative, and can take many forms), and learning how to come in and out of emotional pain in a structured and safe way.