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Couples Counselor
Kevin Fleming, Ph.D.
Coach/Change Agent/Consultant
Santa Barbara, California 93108 | 1-877-606-6161
What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php
![Christi Lindsay, PsyD](https://www.theravive.com/images/counsellors/christi-lindsay.jpg)
Couples Counselor
Christi Lindsay, PsyD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Available for Online Therapy
Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.
![Philip Starkman, MSW, RSW](https://www.theravive.com/images/counsellors/philip-starkman.jpg)
Couples Counselor
Philip Starkman, MSW, RSW
Registered Psychotherapist
Available for Online Therapy
Loving, successful relationships need to be carefully and skillfully nurtured in the following five areas: Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Financial. Couples who are ready to do ongoing work on their relationships are richly rewarded with a loving, meaningful and joyful life together. Committed relationships that have the possibility of morphing into long term relationships benefit greatly by being guided by the Gottman research on relationships as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Premarital Counselling prepares a couple for a new stage in their relationship by identifying potential areas of conflict and strength and developing tools to create a strong foundation.
![Elizabeth Celaya, M.A., AMFT](https://www.theravive.com/images/counsellors/elizabeth-celaya.jpg)
Couples Counselor
Elizabeth Celaya, M.A., AMFT
Registered Associate MFT
Available for Online Therapy
My work with couples is developmental and focuses on self-confrontation, differentiation, and collaboration. Individuals in the partnerships that I work with take responsibility for their own mental health and happiness and learn to grow themselves up in a way that brings goodness and intimacy to their relationship. I can help them overcome gridlock and sexual challenges to strengthen the relationship and reignite desire.
![Ross L. Kellogg, LMFT](https://www.theravive.com/images/counsellors/ross-l.-kellogg.jpg)
Couples Counselor
Ross L. Kellogg, LMFT
Licensed Individual, Marriage, and Family Therapist
Available for Online Therapy
Couples struggling with repeated conflict, emotional injuries, and feelings of loneliness will find solace and rejuvenation in the therapy process. My approach to couples counseling is centered on healing attachment wounds and fostering a deeper connection between partners. By creating a compassionate and non-judgmental space, I guide couples in uncovering the underlying emotions that have led to the disconnection. Together, we will work to develop effective communication skills, rebuild trust, and cultivate empathy. You will experience relief from past hurts and discover new pathways to improved relational functioning, leading to a more satisfying and harmonious partnership.
![Rudi Lion, MA, MFT](https://www.theravive.com/images/counsellors/rudi-lion.jpg)
Couples Counselor
Rudi Lion, MA, MFT
Licensed Marriage Family Therapist
2020 Alameda Padre Serra, Santa Barbara, California 93103 | 805 453-4826
I love working with couples. I believe that many of our issues and misunderstandings in relationships are based in a lack of feeling safe within the couple. Together we will explore the rules and roles of relating that you bring with you from your family of origin and how those 'dictates' influence your current behavior with your partner. We also take an in-depth look at your attachment history, looking how loved and supported you felt with your primary caregivers and again how these early bonds inform your present bond. I will support you in creating a safe and loving 'home' for your relationship, a safe space where you know your partner has your back.
![Madeleine Foster, MA, AMFT, APCC](https://www.theravive.com/images/counsellors/madeleine-foster.jpg)
Couples Counselor
Madeleine Foster, MA, AMFT, APCC
Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist
Available for Online Therapy
I work with couples to repair and rebuild their relationships. My practice focuses on providing couples with the tools they need to create a healthier and more connected relationship. I believe in an integrative approach that is rooted in evidence-based therapies such as Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Psychodynamic Therapy. My goal is to help couples find a deeper understanding of one another and create a more meaningful relationship. I strive to provide a safe, non-judgmental, and respectful environment that encourages honest communication and healing.