Great Couples Counseling in Rancho Mirage, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

I work with couples and families struggling with pornography addiction. It is very common for couples to have difficulties because of porn use and sometimes it helps to have a neutral party to help them express themselves and feel heard. I offer an integrated approach to teach couples new skills and to make changes together.

Loving, successful relationships need to be carefully and skillfully nurtured in the following five areas: Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Financial. Couples who are ready to do ongoing work on their relationships are richly rewarded with a loving, meaningful and joyful life together. Committed relationships that have the possibility of morphing into long term relationships benefit greatly by being guided by the Gottman research on relationships as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Premarital Counselling prepares a couple for a new stage in their relationship by identifying potential areas of conflict and strength and developing tools to create a strong foundation.

My work with couples is developmental and focuses on self-confrontation, differentiation, and collaboration. Individuals in the partnerships that I work with take responsibility for their own mental health and happiness and learn to grow themselves up in a way that brings goodness and intimacy to their relationship. I can help them overcome gridlock and sexual challenges to strengthen the relationship and reignite desire.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

Think back when a conversation did not go well. Was what you said not understood? What we say is as important as how we say it. Since communication styles differ from person to person, it can be one of the trickiest aspects of communicating. Some of us tend to react immediately and emotionally, rather than thinking about what was said. Others simply shut down. Improving relationships is as easy as learning, or relearning, how to talk to each other.

Couples struggling with repeated conflict, emotional injuries, and feelings of loneliness will find solace and rejuvenation in the therapy process. My approach to couples counseling is centered on healing attachment wounds and fostering a deeper connection between partners. By creating a compassionate and non-judgmental space, I guide couples in uncovering the underlying emotions that have led to the disconnection. Together, we will work to develop effective communication skills, rebuild trust, and cultivate empathy. You will experience relief from past hurts and discover new pathways to improved relational functioning, leading to a more satisfying and harmonious partnership.

In couples counseling, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help partners deepen their emotional connection and improve communication. EFT is a proven approach that focuses on identifying and changing negative patterns in relationships while fostering emotional responsiveness. By exploring each partner's underlying emotions and needs, we work together to create a stronger bond, enhance empathy, and rebuild trust. My goal is to help couples break free from cycles of disconnection and cultivate a relationship where both partners feel heard, valued, and emotionally supported.

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.