Great Couples Counseling in Nipomo, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

In couples counseling, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help partners deepen their emotional connection and improve communication. EFT is a proven approach that focuses on identifying and changing negative patterns in relationships while fostering emotional responsiveness. By exploring each partner's underlying emotions and needs, we work together to create a stronger bond, enhance empathy, and rebuild trust. My goal is to help couples break free from cycles of disconnection and cultivate a relationship where both partners feel heard, valued, and emotionally supported.

Couples counseling isn’t just for married partners, it’s for any two people navigating a relationship where communication, trust, or emotional connection feels strained. I help couples uncover unspoken patterns, rebuild mutual respect, and develop practical tools to feel seen and heard. Using Solution-Focused and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, we work to strengthen the partnership, address underlying tensions, and create more understanding. This isn’t about blame, it’s about building a healthier, more resilient connection together.

Couples struggling with repeated conflict, emotional injuries, and feelings of loneliness will find solace and rejuvenation in the therapy process. My approach to couples counseling is centered on healing attachment wounds and fostering a deeper connection between partners. By creating a compassionate and non-judgmental space, I guide couples in uncovering the underlying emotions that have led to the disconnection. Together, we will work to develop effective communication skills, rebuild trust, and cultivate empathy. You will experience relief from past hurts and discover new pathways to improved relational functioning, leading to a more satisfying and harmonious partnership.

Discover how you can go from rejected to connected! Did you know the reactivity you experience is not your fault? (This is one of the main things that causes fights and arguments. It's when you feel out of control, & it leads to doing or saying things you regret, impulsivity, & leads to hurt & separation). I show couples how they can reduce the personal & relational reactivity they experience & increase feeling peaceful, calm, understood, validated, safe, accepted, & connected. I help couples discover their attachment strategies (how we feel safe & get our needs met). This is necessary in order to create lasting improvement, safety, trust, understanding, & connection, in your relationship.

Without conflict, couples do not achieve intimacy. The challenge is helping you and your partner learn how to have healthy conflict that leads to intimacy, rather than destructive conflict that destroys the relationship. I specialize in working with affairs and broken trust, abgtneuro-diverse couples. I usually start with helping you learn ground rules for being able to have safe, constructive, healthy conflict to reduce and eliminate destructive relational patterns. I also use Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you reconnect, learn healthy communication skills, rekindle the flame that you once had, and start talking to each other again. If you are willing to work, I am here for you

My work with couples is developmental and focuses on self-confrontation, differentiation, and collaboration. Individuals in the partnerships that I work with take responsibility for their own mental health and happiness and learn to grow themselves up in a way that brings goodness and intimacy to their relationship. I can help them overcome gridlock and sexual challenges to strengthen the relationship and reignite desire.