Child Psychologists and Child Therapists in Cupertino, CA.

GRIT Kids exists to allow parents or caregivers to aid their children in the work of self-awareness—at every developmental stage— to better understand themselves and the world around them. Simple behavioral management fails to develop the internal locus of control that is necessary for developing character and self-discipline. Forming a self-identity and learning to live with purpose is a necessary life skill for children to learn in order to live into their fullest self. GRIT Kids Coaches are trained to help you do the work of raising your child with intention so you can see that little person grow into all they are capable of.

I am a child therapist that specializes in helping children with anxiety and trauma heal and grow. As a play therapist, I walk alongside your child in expressing their needs and working through their issues. I provide additional parenting support by inviting you as the caregiver to participate in your child's growth and healing by offering parenting skills and coaching. Play is how children express themselves and process their feelings. Through intentional play therapy sessions, I can help your child connect more with themselves and with you. When children have an outlet to express themselves, they are able to better manage their feelings and relationships with others.

Children have not yet learned how to shield themselves from conflict, negativity, etc. Therefore, they are akin to "sponges," soaking up whatever they are exposed to. I provide children with a healthy, authentic space in which they can connect with their feelings through play and discussion. I also work with parents on styles of communication (those they might use with their children as well as their spouse/coparent) that may be inadvertently affecting children.

In my practice I work with young children with a variety of difficulties from controlling their anxiety, anger and tantrums, to getting along better with friends and siblings and parents. I also help them with school difficulties that include failing grades, and behavior issues. I work with the child, parent and often the teacher to remember what Erikkson taught that "behind each behavior is a feeling". My goal is to help the child access their feelings, and in a safe place, explore their feelings and behavior while learning tools to help contol them so they can live happy and fulfilled lives.

Therapy with children involves learning about feelings, developing coping tools to regulate emotions, strengthening self-expression, and gaining social skills. When working with children I provide support through parent coaching so that parents can strengthen the parent child relationship and better support their child. Techniques such as art therapy, play therapy, sand tray, coping skills, and social emotional learning help children overcome challenges and thrive. Through therapy children can improve their relationships with friends, siblings, parents, and teachers.

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After 11 years of working with children, I find it more effective to work with you, the parent. This is not because you are responsible for the way your child is behaving or what your child is going through, but because you have the most positive power and influence in your child's life. If I can use what I know through education and experience to empower you the parent to connect to your child, it will be more impactful and long lasting than if I spend therapy sessions with them. Your child will also find healing through their relationship with you, increasing trust, and strengthening your relationship for the present and future. You will have your Parenting Power back, stronger than ever!

Today it is more complicated than ever to be a teen. With so much going on, it’s common for teens and children feel anxiety, irritability, isolation, low self esteem, and sadness. Teens just need someone to talk to, that isn’t a family member about difficult topics they are experiencing. It’s not that they don’t trust their family, but many times teens need a private, non-judge mental space of their own to gain insight. I have extensive experience working with teens and children, even those resistant to therapy. I specialize with teens managing high academic & athletic achievement. Through therapy teens will learn to manage their emotions, reach goals, and grow into healthy young adults.

Many therapists share they use play therapy in their practice with children, but have not taken further training on its use in therapy. I am a Registered Play Therapist Supervisor, which means I completed 3 years and 3000 additional hours of practice after licensure, clinical supervision, consistent continued education courses, and significant focus in at least two play therapy evidence based practices. I utilize Child Centered Play Therapy, Filial Therapy, Digital Play Therapy, and Prescriptive Play Therapy to address children's needs in addition to creative arts therapies (Drama Therapy, Art Therapy interventions).

Young children don't necessary have the skill or developmental capability to share their feelings verbally, instead they might act out more or show difficulties sleeping or engaging with other children. Since at a young age the child is not able to articulate and understand their feelings and experiences cognitively, I utilize play therapy and EMDR to provide a safe way for children to overcome painful experiences and to find better ways of dealing with difficult situations in their lives.

Having worked in the elementary schools as well as raising six young children myself, I have extensive experience in working with this group. I use a family systems approach to therapy and prefer to partner with parents in the treatment of their children. If family therapy is not a possibility, I will see children on their own, also creating a strong collaborative alliance with their parents.

If young children are traumatized, I offer EMDR therapy with their mothers or fathers present, to help these little ones process disturbing events, nightmares and fears, so that these things aren't stuck in their minds their whole lives - which is what frequently happens. I only counsel young children with parents involved. It is such a blessing to work with these sweet babes to help them be carefree, as children should be.