Anger Management and Counseling in Wildomar, CA.

Is your anger causing you personal, social, or professional problems? Anger is usually a normal, healthy emotion. However, when anger is expressed in an out of control, intimidating, or destructive manner, it can create problems in work, relationships, and even with the law. I help people to understand and to manage their anger. Using humor, patience, and compassion, I facilitate awareness of what thoughts, beliefs, and language create triggers that ignite anger. Additionally, I teach new strategies to keep anger under control and express it in manner that will help you get what you need from others. I can be contacted at 949.370.4726 or at info@southoccounseling.com. Hope to hear from you soon!

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

I aim to help my clients gain a better understanding of their emotions and how to manage them. My practice specializes in anger management and provides tools and techniques to help people maintain stable emotions, stronger relationships, and better communication. I also offer psychoanalytically informed counseling, which helps clients gain insight into their unconscious thoughts and behavior. With my understanding of the human mind, I am able to provide my clients with the support they need to make positive changes in their lives.

Anger management has become a loaded phrase. The way I see it, difficulties in managing anger often stem from a lack of overall emotion regulation issues, childhood trauma, influence of negative stereotypes, and much more. In truth, it becomes less about anger and more about learning to accept and express negative emotions in general. Anger is often seen as a secondary emotion, in that it is prompted by an individual first experiencing an emotion which they do not feel comfortable expressing or have been taught not to express. While anger may make us feel powerful momentarily, it often weakens us and our relationships in the long run.

Using tools for anger issues accelerates your capacity to truly heal, when just saying no or talking to yourself isn't enough! And let's face it, good advice doesn't work with anger! Tools help you use the healthier, highest-functioning part of your personality to manage your moods and reactions. Anger is often a result of triggered feelings that have been buried and surface in your adult life as explosive reactions. Yes there are tools to use to manage these triggered reactions. Talk therapy and good advice is not enough!

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

Anger can be a difficult beast to manage that can fracture or relationships and create guilt and shame, but it is possible to treat it. With the aid of tools like EMDR CBT and guided visualizations I can help you overcome this issue and heal from the issues that drive it. Additionally, I can provide tools, coping skills, and other resources to help you manage this particular issue.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Dr. Laura Adams is a licensed MFT and Psychoanalyst in South Orange County with private practices in Mission Viejo and Newport Beach CA. Dr. Adams specializes in anger issues and anger management and uses a psychodynamic approach to help the individual get in touch with underlying experience that may be working beneath the surface. For more information on Dr. Adams please go to www.SouthOCTherapist.com and call for an appointment at (949) 244-1992.

Anger is a normal emotion, as is happiness, joy and frustration. Anger can take many forms. Uncontrolled anger can affect our health and well-being, both mentally and physically. Anger can affect our stress level, insomnia or digestive issues. We offer strategies, using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic methods to change the negative thinking which offers the client alternative positive ways to manifest their anger and other emotions.

Struggling with expressing one's emotions can lead to anger outbursts. Anger denies us the opportunity to fully be heard by the person we are attempting to express our feelings to and can lead to misunderstandings and further emotional turmoil. We can turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms when we don't feel heard or understood. Alcohol use, drug use, compulsive sexual behavior, detachment and isolation, among other unwanted behaviors may develop as a way to numb intense, unresolved feelings. Counseling can help reduce and eliminate these unwanted behaviors by learning new ways to communicate, express and label emotions, deal with emotions as they arise, and connect with others.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!