Anger Management and Counseling in Grand Terrace, CA.

Using tools for anger issues accelerates your capacity to truly heal, when just saying no or talking to yourself isn't enough! And let's face it, good advice doesn't work with anger! Tools help you use the healthier, highest-functioning part of your personality to manage your moods and reactions. Anger is often a result of triggered feelings that have been buried and surface in your adult life as explosive reactions. Yes there are tools to use to manage these triggered reactions. Talk therapy and good advice is not enough!

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

I treat individuals with histories of trauma. Many adults walk away from abusive childhoods and find themselves acting in angry ways as adults. Anger is only a way that people cope with hardship, and we will work together to learn better ways to cope. Anger is only a symptom-- it does not define you. Anger can mask fear, anxiety, and insecurity. We will work together to find the true underlying issues causing anger. With hard work, you may see the anger melt away over time. I feel our society sees anger as a dirty or shameful part of our mental health, but this must change. You will not be treated poorly in my practice if you are making the effort to learn to cope better!

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

Need help with your anger? You may have experienced anger leading to domestic violence, assault, incarceration, or other detrimental outcomes. You may feel that you are trapped in a cycle of uncontrollable anger that you can't get free from, but Dr. Quinlan has helped many others to discover that they can break this cycle and live a life where anger is managed. Dr. Quinlan has many years of experience leading support groups and individual counseling with a focus on anger management. Once you understand how to manage your anger effectively, then you can use this valuable emotion to motivate you in healthy ways so that you can experience positive growth and fulfillment in your relationships.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

If you are grappling with anger that negatively impacts your live, you will find solace and transformation through anger management therapy. My specialized approach emphasizes improved somatic awareness, allowing recognition and understanding of the physical sensations tied to anger. By fostering a better understanding of emotional patterns, you will be guided to uncover the triggers and underlying causes of the anger. Personalized therapy equips you with the confidence and skills to exert emotional control over a wide range of emotions, leading to more harmonious relationships and a more balanced life. This journey is not just about managing anger, but about unlocking a more peaceful self.

I help clients learn self-regulation tools to manage their regressions. We explore relational histories that have contributed to steady-state regressions and the challenge of managing secondary emotions. Ultimately, my clients are able to find healing from their previously reactive behaviors and more adaptive ways of handling their emotions. The result is better relationships.

Managing anger is more complicated than many people think. The chemicals that are released during an angry/raging episode are similar to the ones released during vigorous exercise and can actually become addicting. That is why angry outbursts seem to get worse over time. It's important to get highly directive therapy to learn how to identify triggers for outbursts and to learn coping skills that will help you avoid the negative consequences of out-of-control anger.

Anger is usually an emotion covering up another emotion. When a child is depressed, you will see anger outbursts. I will assist my client's in identifying the underlining cause of the anger and assist them in finding the tools to manage those emotions. I will also work with you in finding ways to manage your anger and find more peace in your life.