Grief and Loss Counselling in Pitt Meadows, BC.

Grief and loss are a natural part of life. That cannot be avoided. Pain is inevitable but suffering is not. Giving people the space to feel what they feel and express what is going on inside them is so important in processing the impact of grief and loss. Grief is not limited to loss through death but also loss in any significant area of our life. Loss of relationship, loss of expectation, loss of opportunity. None is more or less important than any other. I can offer you a safe space to mourn and I can help you rebuild.

Loss can leave one with a myriad of emotions (feeling overwhelmed, confused, depressed, deeply sad, angry, among others). If left to our own accord, most will eventually begin to feel generally better; however, some lasting emotionality is not uncommon. In other cases, individuals experience a persistent and long-lasting deep sense of loss. In either event, counselling can help individuals to honour the emotionality of grief and loss while reducing the overall effect on their daily living. Ego-State therapy, is particularly well designed for grief and loss interventions, helping individuals to understand the loss, as well as finding and bolstering their own personal coping resources.

If you are human and have ever loved, you will inevitably experience grief in your life. Grief comes as a result of a loss, whether it be loss of a loved one, a job, a home. Sometimes, grief is so intense, it feels overwhelming and paralyzing. My approach in dealing with grief is to provide a safe space to work through and process all of the emotions surrounding the loss, ultimately leading to a place of acceptance and peace.

Grief is individual and comes in unexpected waves. I have yet to hear of two similar grief experiences. Walking alongside someone who is grieving has deeply touched me in my work. Grief can be a heart wrenching, and painfully beautiful experience when shared with a trusted, safe other. The path towards healing and wholeness is as unique as the stories of grief themselves, but you do not have to do the work of healing alone, in the dark.

Grief and loss comes in many forms. You can grieve a death, a relationship, job, friend or the loss of a life you thought you would have. Grief and loss counselling helps to identify the loss and provide support through the process. Counselling can be beneficial to help you overcome the grief in a healthy, productive way and move forward with your life and goals.

All humans experience grief and loss at one time in their lives. I work with clients to help them accept the loss that has occurred in their lives. Once acceptance has been achieved I work with the clients to help them remember with a new perspective. Emotions play a large part in how humans work through difficult times. I help them connect to these emotions using mind/body connection process. My clients have been able to move on and live their life instead of existing within pain.

Whether you feel buried in the untimely loss of a loved one; you are experiencing the grief associated with losing a job you desperately needed; buckling from the pain associated with the breakdown of a precious relationship that you were greatly invested… there is hope to breathe again, to live a life of joy, to get out of bed in the morning. Let me walk by your side, and provide you tools that have been proven to lessen your load, and bring you back to that strong capable person you know you once were.

My approach to counselling for grief and loss is that everyone's experience of grief is unique and valid. There is no right way to respond to grief and it is not a linear path. With compassion and understanding I will come alongside you in your journey, wherever you are in your loss. Together we will process the loss as well as the effects it has on your life and relationships. When you are ready we can discuss strategies for your life that will support you as you move forward through the loss and pain, that include meaning and purpose.

I work with compassion and insight helping clients face loss and grief. Whether the loss is a spouse, a child, a friend, a family member or a pet. I help my clients by explaining the stages of grief that they will most likely go through. I offer a safe place to move ahead from their loss and grief at their own speed. I also have a speciality of working with pet-loss.

Grief is such a personal thing and place of vulnerability for each individual. I can be a safe place to talk about the different feelings you may be having and also to go throught the very painful and challenging grieving process. In a time that very often feels quite alone, you will not be alone. I can help you discover coping tools and ways to get through the difficulties and emotions, all of which are to be expected.

My Approach to Grief and Loss Counselling includes: Being an Active Listener, Communication, Being Empathetic, Having Compassion, Discovering Strategies and Techniques for Coping with Your Loss, Having a Safe Environment, and Being Non-Judgemental. Benefits Of Counselling with me: I let you Talk about your Loss Openly and Without Guilt. I give you the Emotional Support you need to be able to Express Your Emotions Freely. I will help you to Understand how you can Live Without your Loved One, and how to Recognize and Manage your Intense Feelings that You are Experiencing. We will Learn the Different Ways You Grieve, and How this can Benefit You, and then Prepare for Triggers.

When we are mourning a loved one, whether it be a family member, the end of a close relationship, or even an animal that was dear to heart, it is a very complex and painful process. There is no one right way to grieve. Some clients need to discuss a specific situation word-for-word in order to process a loss and others need to just sit in the pain and cry. As a counsellor, I would be there on that journey with you. I would discuss with you what you want to discuss about the loss and I would use a client-centred approach to help guide you through your bereavement.

When losing someone or something important to us, it can take lots time to adjust and learn to live our life without that person, thing or way of life. Either it is the death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of a pet, loss of a job or important possessions, change to your way of life, grieving is a normal response to a life event and bottling it up can create damage or even harm to a person. It can take time to adjust and accept to learn to live life without that person, thing or way of life. When it gets too challenging or overwhelming, or if it gets in a way of living a healthy life, sometimes turning to professional support can help getting through this challenging event.

Loss and life come hand in hand; whether it be a loved one, a pet or any other thing we hold dear, we all experience grief at some point. When faced with loss, grief is a natural response which comes with a multitude of feelings. Counselling can be a space to explore all that comes with grief or simply sit with our grief and build compassion for ourselves through our experience.

Grief and loss issues are explored in an integrative way to promote complete healing and resolution. Intergrative approaches of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Satir, Play and Art therapy, EMDR, Narrative, Solution Focussed are all considered, depending on the individual needs which are consulted & considered in the plan for therapy. Therapy involves, education, support, exploration and processing of thoughts and feelings in order to resolve challenges. Parents of kids should expect to be involved and supported in their awareness of grief and loss and how to assist their children in coping, as developmental factors need to be considered.

Even though we would want to tell the client that grief and loss is a neat process of 5 - 7 stages (denial, anger... acceptance), it is usually experienced as a roller coaster of emotions and it takes a different amount of time for every individual. What I do is to help clients embrace and express different levels of pain: 1) talking about emotional experience, without showing the emotion; 2) talking with emotional reactions (tears coming, trembling voice); 3) silent crying; 4) sobbing and 5) loud crying and screaming. Finally, we should not forget that moderate denial is natural (like a temporary break from grief). And yes, grief can shake our faith, but it usually leads to acceptance.

The loss of a loved one, human or non-human, has a tremendous impact on our emotional well-being, our day to day functioning, and our identity. Dr. Rochefort helps individuals experiencing grief or loss to process the emotional tidal wave, develop skills to support emotional safety, process the grief or loss, and redefine a new life that is worth living.

After significant loss, you may experience difficult and surprising emotions, such as anger, shock and guilt. It may feel like the sadness will never go away. I know personally what this feels like and I support many people who are trying to find ways to cope and find their reason to continue. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. There are however many healthy ways to cope with the pain. You can get through it! I can help you.

Here's what clients have said: "When I came to see you, I felt that I was talking to a friend who understood and was in no way judgmental. ....I always felt better after leaving your office...You seemed to know when to talk and when to let me talk - which was most of the time." "Thank you Kathryn for creating a safe place where I could be free to be in the very depths of my grief and yet always knew I wasnt alone. ...Unlike other people who wanted me to stop crying and "just get over it" you seem to understand how grief overrides reason and problem solving. Most people want me to move on so they wont feel uncomfortable Im sad. You always made it about me, my process and my needs."

The pain of grief and loss can truly be painful. This emotional challenge can extend beyond death. May it be the loss of a relationship - past or present, loss of health, retirement, financial loss, or the death of a loved one, I offer a compassionate and safe space to discuss this grief. In my practice I encourage clients to express their feelings about their losses as part of the processing journey. I offer strategies to cope with the overwhelming feelings while educating my clients about the stages of grief and the mind body relationship during such an experience. Recognizing that grief/loss are profoundly unique experiences, I embrace a person-centred approach during treatment planning.

I offer grief counselling to help clients express complex emotions that can be a part of experiencing grief. I work with individuals to recognize symptoms related to grief and loss in its traditional and non-traditional forms. Grief can be a painful experience that leads to a sense of hopelessness, anger, guilt, sadness, and dysfunction. Together we can unpack the burden of grief and help you cope with your loss.

Dealing with grief & loss is not easy. When we are grieving, it is often multi-faceted and non-linear, it can bring up many different emotions, some unexpected. Working with a therapist through grief & loss can help process the many emotions that may arise. I view the grieving process of each client as unique and support you by allowing space and guiding you to process whatever is coming up in a way that feels comfortable and towards healing.

If you have lost someone, I offer a compassionate and supportive space to explore your unique experience of loss. Listening carefully to your story, there's an opportunity to identify and honour your feelings, your memories and your relationship. Through gentle conversation and questions, there's a chance to rewrite your grief story, discover strengths, attend to resilience and find meaning amidst your pain. You can begin to acknowledge what you've been through while promoting healing, growth, a continued bond with the one who has passed and learning to live with loss

Individuals, couples, and families experience grief in their own way and on their own time. Often the feeling of loss changes and it can be extremely helpful to have someone to support you along your journey without judgment or expectations. To walk alongside with empathy and understanding.

Have you lost a loved one through death? Are you separating or divorcing a partner? Are your children grown and leaving the nest? Are you retiring from a career you loved? Did you experience a less than desired childhood? You may experience a roller coaster of different emotions during the grieving process. Grief is a natural reaction to any kind of loss. Phone 604-468-7300 and let me help you find meaning again after your loss.