Grief and Loss Counselling in Abbotsford, BC.

I have journeyed with clients through the grieving process and have been moved by the vulnerability and strength of my clients. Some areas of grief that I have particular experience in are pregnancy loss/stillbirth, loss of a parent, and grief of a "former self" as an individual enters into a new and unfamiliar stage of life. It has been a privilege to walk alongside clients as they process, remember, and honour the loss of their loved ones.

Are you feeling sad, anxious, angry, lonely, guilty, relieved, isolated, confused, or numbed out? Loss and grief is most often associated with loss of life, but it can also be central to the presenting problems and underlying issues that are brought into my counselling office by most of my clients. Death, divorce, relocation, immigration, job loss, relationship breakdowns...these are all losses that we need to work through. Talking about your loss and processing your feelings is a good place to start.

Are you using alcohol, substances, or addictive behaviors to cope with grief and loss? Although they provide relief in the short term, their long-term effects on your relationships and health can make it even more difficult to cope. Through a compassionate non-judgmental approach, I help clients explore their relationship to grief and loss so that they can overcome addictive coping strategies. If you're looking for another way forward, feel free to reach out and we can set up a free consultation to discuss further.

Counseling with Olivia through a trauma-informed perspective can provide a compassionate and supportive space for clients navigating grief and loss. Olivia prioritizes safety, trust, and understanding, recognizing how trauma impacts emotional and physical well-being. By focusing on the client’s unique experiences, she helps them process their pain, rebuild resilience, and find meaning amid loss. This approach emphasizes empowering clients to establish healthy coping strategies and restore hope in the aftermath of profound emotional challenges. Through a tailored, empathetic framework, Olivia fosters healing and growth, guiding clients toward a sense of peace and renewed purpose.

You may have heard this before- grief is not linear, and it comes in many forms, whether it is the loss of a loved one, a home, a friendship, or a relationship/marriage; maybe it is the loss of mobility or good health, perhaps it was a dream you envisioned for yourself, or perhaps you're grieving the life and privilege you once had. Everyone experiences grief differently, and there is no timeline for the grieving process. Together, we practice patience within ourselves and explore how grief impacts you physically, emotionally, and behaviorally. You will find a nurturing and supportive space that gives you time to go through the process without judgment. The loss you've experienced matters.

I offer grief counselling to help clients express complex emotions that can be a part of experiencing grief. I work with individuals to recognize symptoms related to grief and loss in its traditional and non-traditional forms. Grief can be a painful experience that leads to a sense of hopelessness, anger, guilt, sadness, and dysfunction. Together we can unpack the burden of grief and help you cope with your loss.

Loss and life come hand in hand; whether it be a loved one, a pet or any other thing we hold dear, we all experience grief at some point. When faced with loss, grief is a natural response which comes with a multitude of feelings. Counselling can be a space to explore all that comes with grief or simply sit with our grief and build compassion for ourselves through our experience.

Individuals, couples, and families experience grief in their own way and on their own time. Often the feeling of loss changes and it can be extremely helpful to have someone to support you along your journey without judgment or expectations. To walk alongside with empathy and understanding.

In my practice of grief and loss therapy, I provide a compassionate and supportive space for clients to navigate the complex emotions and challenges that arise from experiencing loss. I understand that grief is a deeply personal journey and honor each individual's unique process. Through empathetic listening, validation, and gentle guidance, I help clients explore their feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. Drawing from various therapeutic modalities such as narrative therapy, existential therapy, and mindfulness techniques, I assist clients in finding meaning, fostering resilience, and integrating their loss into their lives in a way that allows for healing and growth.

All humans experience grief and loss at one time in their lives. I work with clients to help them accept the loss that has occurred in their lives. Once acceptance has been achieved I work with the clients to help them remember with a new perspective. Emotions play a large part in how humans work through difficult times. I help them connect to these emotions using mind/body connection process. My clients have been able to move on and live their life instead of existing within pain.

Grief and loss are a natural part of life. That cannot be avoided. Pain is inevitable but suffering is not. Giving people the space to feel what they feel and express what is going on inside them is so important in processing the impact of grief and loss. Grief is not limited to loss through death but also loss in any significant area of our life. Loss of relationship, loss of expectation, loss of opportunity. None is more or less important than any other. I can offer you a safe space to mourn and I can help you rebuild.

I previously provided consultations for the BC Coroner's Office for 14 years. I functioned as a behavioural investigator and my role was to investigate completed suicides of youths 18 years of age and under. Needless to say this provided me with an opportunity to provide initial grief support to the most some of the most vulnerable clients at a most difficult time! As difficult as this role was it was an honour to have this opportunity to be there at the darkest hour!

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Dealing with grief & loss is not easy. When we are grieving, it is often multi-faceted and non-linear, it can bring up many different emotions, some unexpected. Working with a therapist through grief & loss can help process the many emotions that may arise. I view the grieving process of each client as unique and support you by allowing space and guiding you to process whatever is coming up in a way that feels comfortable and towards healing.

When we are facing grief and loss, there is often a complex web of emotions and many layers of meaning-making to encounter in our healing process. The path is never linear. The timeline requires sensitivity and nuance. Compassion, patience and the ability to hold seemingly contradictory feelings are paramount. With gentle presence, we can hold the magnitude and the subtleties of this experience moving step by step towards healing.

There is at least one therapist at Pacific Coast counselling who specializes in issues related to Grief and Loss. Having a safe space where you are able to process your grief and be supported in your journey while you seek to establish a "new normal" is essential to the healing process. The stages of grief are seldom cookie cutter and almost never in order.