Family Counselling Services in Murrayville, BC.

Humans are social beings, we are wired to live and connect with other humans. The first humans we come into contact with are the families we grow up in. Using attachment theory, I work with clients to help understand where they came from and how this has shaped experiences with themselves, others, and how they see the world. Families are systems and it is important to view them in this way - whether I am working with one individual family member or multiple, I approach this work by continually understanding how one piece of the system affects the others.

The first step in my family therapy is figure out what has changed in the dynamics of the family. There are many reasons that cause a family to become unbalanced. There are times that roles may need to change and change in itself can be very difficult for many people. It may be that separate sessions are held so that this one person can learn to communicate their thoughts and feelings to the rest of the family. The goal is to always have the family work together to learn to become a cohesive and authentic unit.

Like all relationships our relationships with our family members may require outside help to evolve alongside our own personal development. Our Adlerian understanding of families allow us to appreciate the experiences within a family system, like birth order and dynamics amongst various family members to better understand the work involved in improving the quality of those relationships. We strive to help clients feel warmly accepted and welcomed within their own families.

Family counseling focuses on improving dynamics and fostering harmony within the entire family unit. My approach emphasizes understanding each family member’s unique perspective while addressing patterns that may cause conflict or disconnect. Together, we work to enhance communication, resolve misunderstandings, and strengthen relationships by building mutual respect and collaboration. Clients benefit from a deeper understanding of one another, improved problem-solving skills, and a more supportive, connected family environment where everyone can thrive.

Families operate much like a watch. There are several systems working both individually and together, preforming a common task. When conflict or problems arise, it is important to take into consider all members of the system as the most effective approach relies on the strengths the family has as whole. Changes to the parenting dynamic will effect each child individually and as collective. Like wise one child's challenging behaviors will have rippling effects on the rest of the family. By addressing how the family works together and supporting the whole system, everyone benefits and becomes stronger.

As family members present themselves for counseling, each person is invited to speak so that the individual issues the family, the dynamics as a whole, and the struggles. There will be a setting of goals around the target problem and steps to take to achieve the goal. Each family member will have a role to play in the achievement of the family's goal.

You may find yourself going through interpersonal issues with your family, having conflict or communication issues, or other family problems. Using Internal Family System, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, and other techniques, we help you to better understand your family system, build better communication skills, work toward conflict resolution, and discover your triggers in your interpersonal relationships. We hope to help you recover from issues within your family.