Family Counselling Services in Barriere, BC.

I specialize in working with youth, adults and families that have been impacted by anxiety, trauma, conflict, and depression. I also specialize in couples and marriage counselling. I have been very successful in helping families overcome relationship challenges. I have a flexible schedule and can accommodate sessions on evenings and weekends. I am currently accepting new clients.

Despite the best intentions of ourselves and our family members, we are often tangled in patterns of invalidation, rejection, frustration and blame. It can feel so messy that we operate in a constant state of fear and a crippling sense of unworthiness. In 2008 I started my counselling career as a family therapist. A combination of individual and joint sessions will take place to allow the space for all voices to be respectfully heard, while helping to identify bigger ‘systems’ patterns that keep you stuck in pain and finger-pointing. I will help to smooth out communication, make room for wants and needs and to heal the old wounds holding you back from having a healthier relationship.

I believe that a child benefits most from counselling when the whole family is involved in therapy. When parents have the opportunity to practice parenting techniques and collaborate with their child during their therapy process, change can happen at a root level. Through play, parents can learn to connect with their child and learn how to listen actively and be attentive to their child's individual needs.

My approach is centered on fostering open communication, understanding, and cohesion among family members. Recognizing the unique dynamics within familial relationships, I tailor interventions to address the complexities of diverse family structures. By emphasizing effective communication strategies, conflict resolution, and the cultivation of a supportive family environment, my goal is to strengthen the bonds that connect each family member. Through a collaborative process, clients benefit from developing practical tools to navigate challenges, build resilience, and foster a harmonious family life.

Like all relationships our relationships with our family members may require outside help to evolve alongside our own personal development. Our Adlerian understanding of families allow us to appreciate the experiences within a family system, like birth order and dynamics amongst various family members to better understand the work involved in improving the quality of those relationships. We strive to help clients feel warmly accepted and welcomed within their own families.

Imagine a family as a tree with branches, roots, trunk representing parts of the immediate and extended family. When working with families, all elements are considered. Usually there is a request for family therapy due to one of it's members in crisis, often a child. However, when an analysis of need is done it becomes apparent that more than one member of the family needs help in adjusting, growing and learning new behaviours. Clients contact me for a variety of reasons: to improve communications, solve family problems, support in special situations such as death, divorce, marriage, illness, child or adolescent issues.

I believe that we are all profoundly shaped and impacted by our family systems and larger social context. From this perspective I do not believe that "problems" are solely located within the individual. I believe they are impacted by our family system within a social context. In family therapy, we will explore the "problem" and how it is impacting the family system. For example, how are the family members affected by the "problems" and how are they responding. Using a Systemic Family Systems Approach with interventions from Response-Based Practice and Narrative Therapy we will explore the interactions in which the "problems" occur. We will also explore the meaning behind the responses.

I am passionate and experienced in working with families while ensuring their dignity remains intact. Family systems can be complex and confusing; when we are immersed in the struggle, it is difficult to gain perspective. I work to create and hold space during difficult discussions and strive to understand the roles each member plays in their family. I can offer perspectives and suggestions to increase the quality of the overall functioning of the family.

I have worked alongside children/youth and their parents for years in different capacities. Developing healthy and secure relationships in our families helps build confidence and independence. However, family relationships are hard. When we experience a wound or tear in the relationships in families, regardless of the age, this can cause problem interactions that cause distress and distance. I use models of therapy that help reconnect parents and children by facilitating relational repair and healing from wounds for healthier and secure relationships.

Family therapy is one of my specialties. In addition to Family Systems Therapy, I use expressive art therapy, play therapy, and sand tray therapy. I believe that if the family is involved in the therapy the outcome is always better. As a School and Family Consultant, Behaviour Consultant, School Psychologist, as well as a counsellor for many years, I have supported families who have children with all exceptionalities and special needs. I know how important the family dynamic is when it comes to achieving a positive treatment outcome. As a trauma counsellor I have worked with families who have experienced the most difficult and complex crises.

Tammie has been trained as a toxic divorce specialist regarding Parental Alienations Syndrome, her training was provided by Dr. Kathleen Raey, an expert in the field. Family Therapy is a longer type of therapy based on the complex of the concerns and the number of participants. There will be a mixture of One on One counselling as well as group sessions. Please feel free to schedule your free consultation.

Ferne uses a family systems approach to help families communicate better, understand each other better, and deal with conflict in a healthy way. She believes all families have strengths and the capacity to grow. She helps families define their roles, give them skills to learn how to resolve conflict and how to live together through difficult times. Families will understand each others needs and healthy responses to each other. Families will receive support with difficult challenges such as someone having special needs, blended families and family that are on the verge of breakdown.

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.