Great Couples Counselling in Kimberley, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples counselling often focuses on helping partners learn to manage conflicts in a respectful and caring manner, improve their ability to listen deeply and accurately to one another, and heal from emotional wounds. Building healthy intimate relationships involves understanding your partner’s aspirations and dreams, increasing commitment to the relationship, and learning to identify and overcome potential obstacles to open and effective communication with your partner. Other common focus areas include helping partners to recall and renew their friendship, increase their shared pleasure and enjoyment, and strengthening the emotional connection that initially attracted them to one another.

The first step with my approach to couples therapy is for us to establish rapport as you inform me of the problem that has brought you to therapy. I use a Choice Theory approach which includes defining more closely what each of you want for yourselves as individuals and the relationship as a whole. From there, we get to work on rebuilding trust in the relationship by enhancing communication skills so each of you feel listened to, heard, and respected. Then we can build on trust to establish the changes needed to restore the happiness that brought you together in the first place.

Couples counselling focuses on developing strong communication skills, conflict resolution techniques, forgiveness, and effective dialogue. Many couples experience frustration at some point in their relationship where they feel they are not heard, valued or even loved any more. A toxic cycle of blaming, fighting and pulling away begins to form, creating distance and fatigue. For others an affair has shaken the very core of the safety and love they once felt in their relationship. It can be an agonizing and terrifying discovery for the partner who has been betrayed, and strong feelings of guilt, shame and a lack of understanding to how it even happened for the offending partner. Whether you are looking for a tune up to build back the excitement and...(view profile to read more)

Bettina specializes in couples/relationship counselling. She has completed Level 1 and 2 of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy as well as Dr. Gary Chapman's training with The Five Love Languages. Bettina believes having a better understanding of each other's differences as well as similarities, creates trust, acceptance, compassion, understanding, and passion in relationships. The more couples are able to communicate their feelings, needs and wants with each other, the more the relationship can thrive. Bettina uses Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, The Enneagram Personality Program, and communication tools to help couples feel heard, understood, and accepted in their relationships.

If you're looking to improve your relationship, we'd work together to create a supportive environment for discussion, allowing each of you to share your perspective and experience. With important conversations and empathetic questions, there's opportunity to truly see each other and to collaborate to resolve the issues rather than engaging in blame. Together, we'd uncover experiences that promote mutual understanding, empathy and appreciation. Through this process you'll gain insights, develop new ways of communicating, strengthen your connection and establish a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.

Are you and your partner stuck in unsolvable arguments? Does one of you tend to ‘demand’ more while the other shuts down and withdraws? Are you feeling less connected and actually adding stress to each other’s lives instead of reducing it? While frustrating, these are perfectly normal patterns of partnership and there is hope. I would be glad to help you untangle the knots, learning to team up together instead of entering battles over who is right. In doing so, we will unpack past traumas and patterns of behaviour, learning to better communicate and to be safely vulnerable in a way that stands your relationship on solid ground.

Relationships are the most important thing we can do! While the relationship with ourselves is primary, a close second is having a loving healthy relationship with the person we hope to live the longest with: our partner. We do better in life if we have someone supportive behind us. I work with all kinds of couples and even when only one person in the relationship shows up. I am trained in both the Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.

I understand that navigating relationship issues can be incredibly challenging, affecting both your emotional health and the quality of your partnership. In our couples counselling sessions, we'll establish a safe environment for open dialogue, employing the Gottman Method to identify and address the root causes of your conflicts. This evidence-based approach focuses on improving communication, building empathy, and fostering mutual respect. While the journey to a healthier relationship may take time and commitment from both sides, there's genuine hope for renewal and happiness. Together, we can work towards a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

Couples counselling offers a supportive space where partners can navigate challenges and enhance their relationship. Through guided sessions, couples can improve communication, address conflicts, and develop effective strategies for resolving issues. Therapists facilitate understanding, helping couples explore underlying dynamics and strengthen their emotional connection. By engaging in couples counselling, partners can foster healthier interactions, rebuild trust, and work collaboratively to create a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership.